Letter to Isham Reavis (5 November 1855)
1850s
Context: If you are resolutely determined to make a lawyer of yourself, the thing is more than half done already. It is but a small matter whether you read with anyone or not. I did not read with anyone. Get the books, and read and study them till you understand them in their principal features; and that is the main thing. It is of no consequence to be in a large town while you are reading. I read at New Salem, which never had three hundred people living in it. The books, and your capacity for understanding them, are just the same in all places.... Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed, is more important than any other one thing.
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“We're all born strangers to ourselves and each other, and we're seldom formally introduced.”
Variant: Don’t be upset. The world is full of surprises. We’re all born strangers to ourselves and each other, and we’re seldom formally introduced.
Source: Spin (2005), p. 438
“Life isn't a support system for art. It's the other way around.”
“A wave is never found alone, but is mingled with the other waves.”
“Paul and I know each other on a lot of different levels that very few people know about.”
Variant: Those who have courage and faith shall never perish in misery
Source: The Diary of a Young Girl
Source: A Full Life: Reflections at Ninety
1962, Rice University speech
“People know what they want because they know what other people want.”
“A true man of honor feels humbled himself when he cannot help humbling others.”
"Definition of a Gentleman" http://xroads.virginia.edu/~CAP/LEE/gentdef.html, a memorandum found in his papers after his death, as quoted in Lee the American (1912) by Gamaliel Bradford, p. 233
Context: The forbearing use of power does not only form a touchstone, but the manner in which an individual enjoys certain advantages over others is a test of a true gentleman.
The power which the strong have over the weak, the employer over the employed, the educated over the unlettered, the experienced over the confiding, even the clever over the silly — the forbearing or inoffensive use of all this power or authority, or a total abstinence from it when the case admits it, will show the gentleman in a plain light.
The gentleman does not needlessly and unnecessarily remind an offender of a wrong he may have committed against him. He cannot only forgive, he can forget; and he strives for that nobleness of self and mildness of character which imparts sufficient strength to let the past be but the past. A true man of honor feels humbled himself when he cannot help humbling others.
Freedom (1908)
Source: Oeuvres complètes en seize volumes
“To do good is noble. To tell others to do good is even nobler and much less trouble.”
Chicago Defender (1 April 1998)
“For clearly it is impossible to touch eternity with one hand and life with the other.”
Source: The Temple of the Golden Pavilion
Source: Tuesdays with Morrie (1997)
Context: So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they're busy doing things they think are important. This is because they're chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.
“What's in a name? That which we call a rose,
By any other name would smell as sweet.”
Juliet, Act II, scene ii.
Variant: A rose by any other name would smell as sweet.
Source: Romeo and Juliet (1595)
Source: Striking Thoughts: Bruce Lee's Wisdom for Daily Living
Sylva Sylvarum Century X (1627)
Source: The Collected Works of Sir Francis Bacon
Context: It is true that may hold in these things, which is the general root of superstition; namely, that men observe when things hit, and not when they miss; and commit to memory the one, and forget and pass over the other.
Source: The Habit of Being: Letters of Flannery O'Connor
A Declaration of Independence (12 March 1964) http://teachingamericanhistory.org/library/index.asp?document=1148
Variant: We cannot think of uniting with others, until after we have first united among ourselves. We cannot think of being acceptable to others until we have first proven acceptable to ourselves.
Context: There can be no black-white unity until there is first some black unity. There can be no workers' solidarity until there is first some racial solidarity. We cannot think of uniting with others, until after we have first united among ourselves. We cannot think of being acceptable to others until we have first proven acceptable to ourselves. One can't unite bananas with scattered leaves.
Statement from unpublished notes for the Preface to Opticks (1704) quoted in Never at Rest: A Biography of Isaac Newton (1983) by Richard S. Westfall, p. 643
“Learn to forgive yourself and to forgive others.”
Day 19: Cultivating Community
The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here For? (2002)
Variant: Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.
Source: The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth am I Here for?
“He lives the poetry that he cannot write. The others write the poetry that they dare not realize”
“When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself”
“Talking about my fears to others feeds it.”
Source: The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath
Variant: We are one, after all, you and I, together we suffer, together exist and forever will recreate one another.
“If we could truly see ourselves the way others see us we'd disappear on the spot.”
“Really high-minded people are indifferent to happiness, especially other people's.”
Source: The Impact of Science on Society
“Wickedness is a myth invented by good people to account for the curious attractiveness of others.”
Source: A Joseph Campbell Companion: Reflections on the Art of Living
Source: Empire of Illusion: The End of Literacy and the Triumph of Spectacle
“A good marriage is that in which each appoints the other guardian of his solitude.”
Source: Letters to a Young Poet
As cited in The Age of Turbulence: Adventures in a New World (2007), Alan Greenspan, Penguin Press, Chapter 4 (Private Citizen), p. 87 : ISBN 15942 01315
1980s
“Life sometimes separates people so that they can realize how much they mean to each other.”
Source: The Winner Stands Alone
“Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of other people.”
Variant: Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of other people.
Source: Finite and Infinite Games: A Vision of Life as Play and Possibility
Source: A World Waiting to Be Born: Civility Rediscovered
“Can a nation be free if it oppresses other nations? It cannot.”
Source: This Is Water: Some Thoughts, Delivered on a Significant Occasion, about Living a Compassionate Life
“I conceive a knowledge of books is the basis upon which other knowledge is to be built.”
Justice in War-Time (1916), p. 70
1910s
“… success is not a comparison of what we have done with what others have done.”
Source: understanding your potential discovering the hidden you
Source: The Diary of a Young Girl
Variant: As long as you know who you are, and see what makes you happy, it doesn't matte how others see you
Source: Every Soul a Star