Quotes about grief
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“There is a point when grief exceeds the human capacity to emote, and as a result one is strangely composed”

Source: Cutting for Stone

“I am taking this in, slowly,
Taking it into my body.
This grief. How slow
The body is to realize
You are never coming back.”

Donna Masini (1954) American writer

“The greatest griefs are silent.”

Wally Lamb book I Know This Much Is True

Source: I Know This Much Is True

“Grief was the celebration of love, those who could feel real grief were lucky to have loved.”

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie book Half of a Yellow Sun

Source: Half of a Yellow Sun

Love, Feeling

“Grief is a curious thing, when it happens unexpectedly. It is a Band-aid being ripped away, taking the top layer off a family. And the underbelly of a household is never pretty, ours no exception.”

Jodi Picoult My Sister's Keeper

Source: My Sister's Keeper

Family

“The obliterated place is equal parts destruction and creation. The obliterated place is pitch black and bright light. It is water and parched earth. It is mud and it is manna. The real work of deep grief is making a home there.”

Cheryl Strayed book Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

Source: Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

Home, Light, Water, Parting

“The lives of all people flow through time, and, regardless of how brutal one moment may be, how filled with grief or pain or fear, time flows through all lives equally.”

Orson Scott Card book Children of the Mind

Source: Children of the Mind

Pain, People, Fear, Time

“What I sometimes mistake for ecstasy is simply the absence of grief.”

Sarah Kane book Crave

Source: Crave

“There is no feeling, except the extremes of fear and grief, that does not find relief in music.”

T.S. Eliot (1888–1965) 20th century English author

Fear, Music, Feeling

“We all have our sorrows, and although the exact delinaments, weight and dimensions of grief are different for everyone, the color of grief is common to us all.
I know, he said, because he was human, and therefore, in a way, he did.”

Diane Setterfield book The Thirteenth Tale

Source: The Thirteenth Tale

Color, Way

“I don't believe that grief passes away. It has its time and place forever. More time is added to it; it becomes a story within a story. But grief and griever alike endure.”

Wendell Berry (1934) author

Source: Jayber Crow

Time

“I feel no grief for being called something
which
I am not;
in fact, it's enthralling, somehow, like a good
back rub”

Charles Bukowski (1920–1994) American writer

Source: You Get So Alone at Times That it Just Makes Sense

Feeling

“I do not believe that grief is ever so great that it can not be contained within.”

Judith McNaught (1944) American writer

Source: Once and Always

“Grief takes many forms, including the absence of grief.”

Alison Bechdel (1960) American cartoonist, author

“It has been the dream of very few men to rule the entire world.
- Dr. Grief”

Anthony Horowitz book Point Blanc

Source: Point Blank

Men, World, Dreams

“Grief dares us to love once more.”

Terry Tempest Williams book Refuge: An Unnatural History of Family and Place

Source: Refuge: An Unnatural History of Family and Place

Love

“For sudden Joys, like Griefs, confound at first.”

Daniel Defoe La vie et les aventures de Robinson Crusoe

Source: Robinson Crusoe

Joy

“For a week, almost without speaking,
they went ahead like sleepwalkers through a universe of grief, lighted only by the tenuous
reflection of luminous insects, and their lungs were overwhelmed by a suffocating smell of blood.”

Gabriel García Márquez book One Hundred Years of Solitude

Source: One Hundred Years of Solitude

Light, Universe

“Grief loves the hollow; all it wants is to hear its own echo.”

Hisham Matar book In the Country of Men

Source: In the Country of Men

Love

“In days that follow, I discover that anger is easier to handle than grief.”

Emily Giffin (1972) American writer

Source: Heart of the Matter

Anger

“I had problems a therapist couldn't solve; grief that no man in a room could ameliorate.”

Cheryl Strayed book Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail

Source: Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail

Problem

“Maybe that's what you got when you stood over your grief, facing it finally. A sense of its depths, its area, the distance across, and the way over or around it, whichever you chose in the end.”

Sarah Dessen book The Truth About Forever

Source: The Truth About Forever

Way, Sense

“There is no greater grief than to find no happiness, but happiness in what is past.”

Jeanette Winterson (1959) English writer

Source: The Powerbook

Happiness, Past

“Time apparently did nothing but blunt grief’s sharpest edge so that it hacked rather than sliced.”

Stephen King book Lisey's Story

Source: Lisey's Story

Time

“There is no grief like the grief that does not speak.”

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow (1807–1882) American poet

For Father

“Even his griefs are a joy long after to one that remembers all that he wrought and endured.”

Homér The Odyssey (Cowper)

Source: The Odyssey

Joy

“Women were different, no doubt about it. Men broke so much more quickly. Grief didn't break women. Instead it wore them down, it hollowed them out very slowly.”

Cornelia Funke Inkheart trilogy

Source: Inkdeath

Women, Men

“I know that grief, like regret, settles into our DNA and remains forever a part of us.”

Kristin Hannah book The Nightingale

Source: The Nightingale

Parting

“Can I see another's woe,
And not be in sorrow too?
Can I see another's grief,
And not seek for kind relief?”

William Blake On Another's Sorrow

On Another's Sorrow, st. 1
1780s, Songs of Innocence (1789–1790)

Sad

“Grief is natural,' she said. 'Overcoming it is a matter of choice.”

Jeffrey Eugenides book The Virgin Suicides

Source: The Virgin Suicides

Nature

“She could no longer borrow from the future to ease her present grief.”

Nathaniel Hawthorne book The Scarlet Letter

Source: The Scarlet Letter

Future

“There were thirst and hunger, and you were the fruit.
There were grief and the ruins, and you were the miracle.”

Pablo Neruda book Twenty Love Poems and a Song of Despair

Source: Twenty Love Poems and a Song of Despair

Hunger

“He felt full of a dense and sour substance that was blocking his chest, and it wasn't grief. After all those years, life now seemed like no more than a trap, a maze, not even a maze, just a room that was all walls, no door.”

Etgar Keret (1967) Israeli and polish writer and screenwriter

Source: Gaza Blues: Different Stories

Life

“Sleep with Seth Mortensen? Good grief. It was the most preposterous thing I'd ever heard. It was appalling. If I absorbed his life force, there was no telling how long it'd be until his next book came out.”

Richelle Mead (1976) American writer

Source: Succubus Blues

Life, Books, Sleep

“All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”

Cormac McCarthy book The Road

Source: The Road

Pain, Beauty, Birth, Heart

“perhaps grief is as much regret for what we have never had as sorrow for what we have lost.”

David Nicholls book Us

Source: Us

“Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals them.”

Leo Tolstoy (1828–1910) Russian writer

Love, People, Suffering, Hurtful

“I had always turned to books, to knowledge, to help me get through everything in my life—and,
sometimes, to escape it. But grief was a journey through a forest of razor blades. I walked through every
painful inch of it—no shortcuts and no anesthesia.”

Michele Bardsley (1970) American writer

Source: Don't Talk Back To Your Vampire

Life, Pain, Books, Knowledge

“She wanted—what some people want throughout life—a grief that should deeply touch her, and thus humanize and make her capable of sympathy.”

Nathaniel Hawthorne book The Scarlet Letter

Source: The Scarlet Letter

Life, People

“Life is full of grief, to exactly the degree we allow ourselves to love other people.”

Orson Scott Card book Shadow of the Giant

Source: Shadow of the Giant

Love, Life, People

“If you trade your authenticity for safety, you may experience the following: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, rage, blame, resentment, and inexplicable grief.”

Brené Brown (1965) US writer and professor

Rage

“Friendship improves happiness, and abates misery, by doubling our joys, and dividing our grief”

Marcus Tullius Cicero (-106–-43 BC) Roman philosopher and statesman

Friendship, Happiness, Joy, Happy

“The mercy of the world is time. Time does not stop for love, but it does not stop for death and grief, either.”

Wendell Berry (1934) author

Source: Jayber Crow

Love, Death, World, Time

“Unhappiness is selfish, grief is selfish. For whom are the tears?”

Jeanette Winterson (1959) English writer

Source: Written on the Body

Tear, Selfishness

“Oh, good grief! I’ve never had a man pick me up before and not grunt like he’s dying. I’m in heaven. Marry me, Ash, please! (Pam)
I would say yes, but I come with more baggage than even Samsonite can cover. (Acheron)”

Sherrilyn Kenyon (1965) Novelist

Source: Acheron

“[Unnamed actress on the set of Grand Prix] never had eyes for me. Hell, she wouldn't even talk to me, after she'd found out that I was just an unimportant actor. Good grief! Then, this is what happened: We were sitting in the foyer of the Hotel de Paris in Monte Carlo. She, myself and Antonio. Then an assistant director crossed our path. That actress was trying to get him to take us to the theatre where they were showing the rushes of the day before. After some discussion, she persuaded him. He said: `Be quiet, I'm gonna lose my job…' So we hid in the balcony, looking down, where that wonderful director Frankenheimer was sitting. After some minutes of racing cars, finally her scene came, and she was doing a phone call - she was playing a sophisticated magazine editor -, and suddenly you could hear the director, who had this loud, resonant voice, howling in rage, because he didn't like her at all. `Oh my God, she's awful! She can't walk, she can't talk, look at her hair!' So he turned to that faggot hairdresser, who was like Katherine the Great, and this guy said: `Well, usually she plays this peasant types. I don't know why you cast her for this role in the first place!”

Donald O'Brien (actor) (1930–2003) Italian film and TV actor

And remember, this actress was sitting there with us, and she nearly went crazy! She was squirming with embarrassment. This is an actor's nightmare, you know. The next day she was fired.
Euro Trash Cinema magazine interview (March 1996)

God, Cars, Guy, Hell

“Happiness does not await us all. One needn’t be a prophet to say that there will be more grief and pain than serenity and money. That is why we must hang on to one another.”

Anton Chekhov (1860–1904) Russian dramatist, author and physician

Letter to K.S. Barantsevich (March 3, 1888)
Letters

Money, Pain, Happiness

“Grief never mended no broken bones, and as good people’s wery scarce, what I says is, make the most on ’em.”

Charles Dickens book Sketches by Boz

Scenes, Ch. 22 : Gin-Shops
Sketches by Boz (1836-1837)

People

“True joy is a profound remembering; and true grief the same.”

Clive Barker (1952) author, film director and visual artist

Part Five “Revels”, Chapter i “Cal, Among Miracles” (p. 199)
(1987), BOOK TWO: THE FUGUE

Joy

“First melted off the hope of youth
Then Fancy's rainbow fast withdrew
And then experience told me truth
In mortal bosoms never grew
'Twas grief enough to think mankind
All hollow servile insincere
But worse to trust to my own mind
And find the same corruption there”

Emily Brontë (1818–1848) English novelist and poet

I Am the Only Being (1836)

Truth, Youth, Hope, Thinking

“Society and conversation, therefore, are the most powerful remedies for restoring the mind to its tranquillity, if, at any time, it has unfortunately lost it; as well as the best preservatives of that equal and happy temper, which is so necessary to self-satisfaction and enjoyment. Men of retirement and speculation, who are apt to sit brooding at home over either grief or resentment, though they may often have more humanity, more generosity, and a nicer sense of honour, yet seldom possess that equality of temper which is so common among men of the world.”

Adam Smith book The Theory of Moral Sentiments

Section I, Chap. III.
The Theory of Moral Sentiments (1759), Part I

Men, Happiness, World, Home

“There may be a rationalist who has never wavered in his conviction of the mortality of the soul, and there may be a vitalist who has never wavered in his faith in immortality; but at the most this would prove that just as there are natural monstrosities, so there are those who are stupid as regards heart and feeling, however great their intelligence, and those who are stupid intellectually, however great their virtue. But, in normal cases, I cannot believe those who assure me that never, not in a fleeting moment, not in the hours of direst loneliness and grief, has this murmur of uncertainty breathed upon their consciousness.”

Miguel de Unamuno (1864–1936) 19th-20th century Spanish writer and philosopher

The Tragic Sense of Life (1913), VI : In the Depths of the Abyss

Stupidity, Faith, Feeling, Soul

“Anyone can look at our books and what we've done over 12 years, we have absolutely nothing to hide. We are under attack despite doing nothing wrong, I along with the board and all our ambassadors devote our time for free to raise funds. I've put over USD 150,000 of my own money into the foundation and never received a cent. I'm spending four to five hours a day on the foundation … and getting grief for it”

Shane Warne (1969–2022) Australian former international cricketer

Talking about his foundation, TSWF, being closed down due to allegations about its financial and reporting practices, Z News (January 24, 2016), h"Shane Warne: Nothing to hide, says Aussie legend after foundation comes under scanner" http://zeenews.india.com/sports/cricket/shane-warne-nothing-to-hide-says-aussie-legend-after-foundation-comes-under-scanner_1848626.html

Money, Books, Time

“Thus I alone, where all my freedom grew,
In prison pine, with bondage and restraint:
And with remembrance of the greater grief,
To banish the less, I find my chief relief.”

Henry Howard, Earl of Surrey (1516–1547) English Earl

Source: Prisoned in Windsor, He Recounteth his Pleasure there Passed, Line 51.

Freedom

“The poet walked alone in a cold late rain,
And thought his grief was like the crying of sea-birds;
For his lover was dead, he never would love again.”

Conrad Aiken (1889–1973) American novelist and poet

The House of Dust (1916 - 1917)

Love, Lovers, Bird, Cry

“God involves continuous awareness of finiteness, supreme capacity to feel grief, the renouncing of divine attributes in order to become pure giving, infinite love, redemption and consolation.”

Aldo Capitini (1899–1968) Italian philosopher and political activist

Hymn

Love, God, Feeling

“The vanquished know war. They see through the empty jingoism of those who use the abstract words of glory, honor, and patriotism to mask the cries of the wounded, the senseless killing, war profiteering, and chest-pounding grief.”

Chris Hedges (1956) American journalist

War: Realities and Myths http://www.antiwar.com/orig/hedges.php?articleid=6294

War

“My ideal body, you know, would be just probably something like, ahm… One eye, you probably only need one. A kind of sucker thing instead of teeth, because they just give you grief in the end, you know. And a long, long tube with my arse way over there so I don't have to deal with it. That would be ideal.”

Dylan Moran (1971) Irish actor and comedian

Describing ideal body.
Monster (2004)

Way

“The arrival of Wallace Hartley’s body became a focal point of national grief. This young man not only represented all who had died on the Titanic, but also the values that the British feared were in decline.”

Steve Turner (1949) British writer

Source: The Band That Played On (Thomas Nelson, 2011), p.162

Fear

“The grief of the keen is no personal complaint for the death of one woman over eighty years, but seems to contain the whole passionate rage that lurks somewhere in every native of the island. In this cry of pain the inner consciousness of the people seems to lay itself bare for an instant, and to reveal the mood of beings who feel their isolation in the face of a universe that wars on them with winds and seas.”

John Millington Synge (1871–1909) Irish playwright, poet, prose writer, and collector of folklore

Pt. I.
The Aran Islands (1907)

Death, Pain, War, People

“I feel a great deal of sympathy for the families of the four brave Americans that we lost at Benghazi. And I certainly can’t even imagine the grief that she has for losing her son, but she’s wrong. She’s absolutely wrong. I and everybody in the administration, all the people she named, the president, the vice president, Susan Rice, we were scrambling to get information that was changing, literally by the hour. And when we had information, we made it public. But then sometimes we had to go back and say we have new information that contradicts it. So I testified for 11 hours. … We have captured one of the lead terrorists and he admits it was both a terrorist attack and it was influenced by the video. This was fog of war. This was complicated. The most effective, comprehensive reports and studies demonstrate that. … I deeply regret that we lost four Americans. And I of course sympathize with members of the families who are still, you know, very much grieving. And I wish that there could be an easy answer at the time, but we learned a lot, and the intelligence kept improving, and we learned enough to say what we think happened at Benghazi.”

Hillary Clinton (1947) American politician, senator, Secretary of State, First Lady

Presidential campaign (April 12, 2015 – 2016), Democratic Presidential Debate in Miami (March 9, 2016)

War, People, Family, Feeling

“He died before the night was through
Without farewell, or I love you
My father, my father.
The sky in Nantes
Rips my heart with grief.”

Barbara (singer) (1930–1997) French singer

Mais il mourut à la nuit même
Sans un adieu, sans un je t'aime
Mon père, mon père
le ciel de Nantes
Rend mon coeur chagrin.

Nantes.
Song lyrics

Love, Heart, Night

“A wave do ye displace,
A shield do ye extend
To the travelling woe,
And violent exertion through grief.
And inflaming through fury
Between heaven and earth.”

Taliesin (534–599) Welsh bard

Book of Taliesin (c. 1275?), Oh God, the God of Formation

Travel

“I know a lovely little flower, a flower for which I pine —
I would go gather it, but bars my heavy hours confine;
Oh, grief, when free, how easily that little flower was mine!
...
Oh, were I sinking to the grave I often ask in vain,
And welcome Death stood by to loose the wasted captive's chain —
Ah, name me the Forget-me-not, I'd wake to life again!”

Letitia Elizabeth Landon (1802–1838) English poet and novelist

The London Literary Gazette (3rd January 1835) Versions from the German (First Series.) - 'The Lovely Little Flower' — Goethe.
Translations, From the German

Love, Life, Death, Flowers

“My spirits.... now lean towards sadness and melancholy. I too am beginning to feel my age. Then, as one moves on in life sorrows multiply, and necessarily it is harder to keep cheerful... [I experienced] violent disappointments, that I might even call grief.”

Jean-Baptiste-Camille Corot (1796–1875) French landscape painter and printmaker in etching

Quote in Corot's letter to Jean-Gabriel Scheffer, 27 Dec. 1845; as quoted in Corot, Gary Tinterow, Michael Pantazzi, Vincent Pomarède - Galeries nationales du Grand Palais (France), National Gallery of Canada, Metropolitan Museum of Art (New York, N.Y.), 1996, p. 142
this is one of the very few negative expressions by Corot; he is then 49.
1820 - 1850

Life, Age, Sadness, Disappointment

“When the honoured month of Ramazdn, 588 H., the season of mercy and pardon, arrived, fresh intelligence was received at the auspicious Court, that the accursed Jatwan, having admitted the pride of Satan into his brain, and placed the cup of chieftainship and obstinacy upon his head, had raised his hand in fight against Nusratu-d din… The armies attacked each other "like two hills of steel, and the field of battle became tulip-dyed with the blood of the warriors."… The Hindus were completely defeated, and their leader slain." Jatwan, who was the essence of vice and turbulence, and the rod of infidelity and perverseness, the friend of grief, and the con- panion of shame, had his standards of God-plurality and ensigns of perdition lowered by the hand of power;" "and the dust of the field of battle was commingled with the blood of that God- abandoned wretch, and the whole country was washed from the filth of his idolatry.'"”

Muhammad of Ghor (1160–1206) Ghurid Sultan

About the flight of Jatwan and his death in battle, Kutbu-d din (general of Muhammad of Ghor). Hasan Nizami. Elliot and Dowson, Vol. II : Elliot and Dowson, History of India as told by its own Historians, 8 Volumes, Allahabad Reprint, 1964. pp. 217-218. Also quoted in Jain, Meenakshi (2011). The India they saw: Foreign accounts.

God, Intelligence, Fight, Country

“Grief like anything else – like a stone – is content only; God gives us the form, that serenity, purity and self-possession with which to surround and live grief.”

Aldo Capitini (1899–1968) Italian philosopher and political activist

Hymn

God

“If…it be a thing external that causes thy grief, know, that it is not that properly that doth cause it, but thine own conceit and opinion concerning the thing: which thou mayest rid thyself of, when thou wilt.”

Marcus Aurelius book Meditations

VIII, 45
Meditations (c. 121–180 AD), Book VIII

“Let us put our griefs to rest in our own hearts…
What good's to be won from tears that chill the spirit?
So the immortals spun our lives that we, we wretched men
live on to bear such torments—the gods live free of sorrows.”

Homér Iliad

XXIV. 522–526 (tr. Robert Fagles).
Iliad (c. 750 BC)

Men, God, Tear, Heart

“I don't know how this will end. All I know is Nanhoï's love. My son is my life. I believe in the magic of this love. He is the embodiment of life to me. The embodiment of beauty. Through him I'll find redemption and salvation. Then the wound in my soul - the wound I thought would never scar over - will stop bleeding. I thought I would have to tear it open once it began to heal. Back then, when I felt I couldn't stop being what is called an actor, when I told myself I was only doing it for the money and that it could be worse. Now, today, I'd rather be poor, but without nightmares and without the torture. If only I could! I wish I'd never been an actor! I wish I'd never had success! I'd rather have been a streetwalker, selling my body, than selling my tears and my laughter, my grief and joy.”

Klaus Kinski (1926–1991) German actor

Source: Kinski Uncut : The Autobiography of Klaus Kinski (1996), p. 316

Love, Life, Money, Beauty

“It was a touching sight that aged negro kneeling at the feet of the tall, gaunt-looking man who seemed in himself to be bearing all the grief of the nation, and whose sad face seemed to say, 'I suffer for you all, but will do all I can to help you.”

David Dixon Porter (1813–1891) United States Navy admiral

Source: 1880s, Incidents and Anecdotes of the Civil War (1885), p. 295

Age, Sadness, Suffering, Help

“Whoever in a noble noose is caught,
Although his lady may but ill receive
His ardour and thus render him distraught,
And no reward for his devotion give,
Whence all his time and labour come to naught,
Yet, if his heart be worthily bestowed,
No lamentation to his grief is owed.”

Ludovico Ariosto book Orlando Furioso

Che chi si truova in degno laccio preso,
Se ben di sé vede sua donna schiva,
Se in tutto aversa al suo desire acceso;
Se bene Amor d'ogni mercede il priva,
Poscia che 'l tempo e la fatica ha speso;
Pur ch'altamente abbia locato il core,
Pianger non de', se ben languisce e muore.
Canto XVI, stanza 2 (tr. B. Reynolds)
Orlando Furioso (1532)

Time, Heart

“I regularly see constituents, speak to people who feel let down by the justice system quite fundamentally, and these are people who don't make the headlines. These are people who have felt that their sense their grief, their sense of injustice has been compounded by a system that just doesn't work, that just doesn't listen to victims, that effectively disempowers them all too often.”

Nick Xenophon (1959) Australian politician

Legal eagles discuss justice system, 13 May 2005, Stateline (ABC), 2009-11-17 http://www.abc.net.au/stateline/sa/content/2005/s1369386.htm,

People, Justice, Feeling, Sense

“Come back! come back!" he cried in grief
"Across this stormy water;
And I'll forgive your Highland chief,
My daughter! O my daughter!”

Thomas Campbell (1777–1844) British writer

Stanza 13
Lord Ullin's Daughter

Forgiveness, Water, Daughters

“Grief is not productive. It simply represents an inefficiency in accepting change of status.”

Greg Bear book Eon

Source: Eon (1985), p. 263

Change

“Thus the more readily we accept grief, the deeper in us the awakening of the love which is not attachment but a positive serenity, pure and full of faith, the infinite in a loving act, even though in bitterness and tears.”

Aldo Capitini (1899–1968) Italian philosopher and political activist

Hymn

Love, Faith, Tear

“When summer draws near and the sun rises higher, it draws the moisture out of the earth through the roots, and through the trunks of the trees, into the twigs; and hence come foliage, flower, and fruit. So likewise, when Christ the Eternal Sun rises and ascends in our hearts, so that it is summer in the adornment of our virtues, He gives His light and His heat to our desires, and draws the heart from all the multiplicity of earthly things, and brings about unity and inwardness; and makes the heart grow and bring forth the leaves of inward love, the flowers of ardent devotion, and the fruits of thanksgiving and praise, and makes these fruits to endure eternally, in humble grief, because of our shortcomings.”

John Ruysbroeck (1293–1381) Flemish mystic

The Spiritual Espousals (c. 1340)

Love, Flowers, Tree, Light

“If the next time our governments propose to make war on a helpless civilian population we were to uncover our grief and guilt instead of our anger, how much difference might we make?”

Germaine Greer (1939) Australian feminist author

Sorrow (pg. 189)
The Whole Woman (1999)

War, Time, Anger

“There is no logic to grief.”

N. K. Jemisin book The Hundred Thousand Kingdoms

Source: The Hundred Thousand Kingdoms (2010), Chapter 21 (p. 282)

“Out whole civilization was a cemetery where Jesus Christ and Socrates, Mozart and Haydn, Dante and Goethe were but indecipherable names on moldering stones; and the mourners who stood round affecting a pretense of sorrow would give much to believe in these inscriptions which once were holy, or at least to utter one heart-felt word of grief and despair about this world that is no more. And nothing was left them but the embarrassed grimaces of a company round a grave.”

Hermann Hesse book Steppenwolf

Steppenwolf (1927)

World, Heart, Christ, Despair

“I think of the chimp, the one with the talking hands. In the course of the experiment, that chimp had a baby. Imagine how her trainers must have thrilled when the mother, without prompting, began to sign her newborn. Baby, drink milk. Baby, play ball. And when the baby died, the mother stood over the body, her wrinkled hands moving with animal grace, forming again and again the words: Baby, come hug, Baby come hug, fluent now in the language of grief.”

Amy Hempel (1951) Short story writer

The Collected Stories of Amy Hempe, (2006)

Imagination, Drink, Thinking, Animals

“Of what she said to me that night—no matter.
The strange thing came next day.
My brain was full of music—something she played me—;
I couldn't remember it all, but phrases of it
Wreathed and wreathed among faint memories,
Seeking for something, trying to tell me something,
Urging to restlessness: verging on grief.
I tried to play the tune, from memory,—
But memory failed: the chords and discords climbed
And found no resolution—only hung there,
And left me morbid... Where, then, had I heard it?...”

Conrad Aiken (1889–1973) American novelist and poet

The House of Dust (1916 - 1917)

Music, Memory, Night

“Man is subject to innumerable pains and sorrows by the very condition of humanity, and yet, as if nature had not sown evils enough in life, we are continually adding grief to grief, and aggravating the common calamity by our cruel treatment of one another.”

Joseph Addison (1672–1719) politician, writer and playwright

No. 169 (13 September 1711).
The Spectator (1711–1714)

Life, Pain, Nature, Evil

“For me, a page of good prose is where one hears the rain [and] the noise of battle. [It] has the power to give grief or universality that lends it a youthful beauty.”

John Cheever (1912–1982) American novelist and short story writer

Accepting National Medal for Literature (April 27, 1982).

Youth, Beauty, Universe

“But woman's grief is like a summer storm,
Short as it violent is.”

Joanna Baillie (1762–1851) Scottish poet and dramatist

Act V, scene 3.
Count Basil (1798)

Summer

“There is a day of sunny rest
For every dark and troubled night;
And a grief may bid, and evening guest,
Bot joy shall come with early light”

William Cullen Bryant (1794–1878) American romantic poet and journalist

Blessed are they that mourn

Light, Joy, Night

“Youth's first acquaintance with sorrow is a terrible thing—before time has taught, what it will surely teach, that grief is our natural portion, at once transitory and eternal. But the first lesson is the severest—we have not then looked among our fellows, and seen that suffering is general; and we feel as if marked out by fate for misery that has no parallel.”

Letitia Elizabeth Landon (1802–1838) English poet and novelist

Heath's book of Beauty, 1833 (1832)

Fate, Youth, Feeling, Nature

“Tired with dull grief, grown old before my day,
I sit in solitude and only hear
Long silent laughters, murmurings of dismay,
The lost intensities of hope and fear;
In those old marshes yet the rifles lie,
On the thin breastwork flutter the grey rags,
The very books I read are there—and I
Dead as the men I loved, wait while life drags.”

Edmund Blunden (1896–1974) English poet, author and literary critic

Festubert, 1916 https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/57255/festubert-1916 (1921)

Love, Life, Men, Lie

“Why hold ye so my heart, nor dimly let
Through your deep leaves the light of yesterday,
The faded glimmer of a sunshine set?
Is it that in your darkness, shut from strife,
The bread of tears becomes the bread of life?
Far from the roar of day, beneath your boughs
Fresh griefs beat tranquilly, and loves and vows
Grow green in your gray shadows, dearer far
Even than all lovely lights and roses are?”

Frederick Goddard Tuckerman (1821–1873) American poet

"Dank fens of cedar, hemlock branches gray" lines 6–14, Poems, 1860

Love, Life, Tear, Light

“No blessed leisure for love or hope,
But only time for grief.”

Thomas Hood (1799–1845) British writer

1840s, The Song of the Shirt (1843)

Love, Hope, Time

“No music was made from grief, moulded from sorrow.”

Juhani Aho (1861–1921) Finnish author and journalist

Juhani Aho. Yksin ("Alone," 1890, tr. as Seul 2013); cited in: Guri Barstad, ‎Karen P. Knutsen (2016), States of Decadence: On the Aesthetics of Beauty, Decline and Transgression across Time and Space Volume 1. p. 2

Music

“.. The movement and the rustle of the branches [in the forest, while losing his attention for chasing] delights me. The clouds float past and I lift my head to follow their flight, or think about some madrigal, when a slight sound, which has been going on for a little while, rouses me slowly from my dream.; at least I turn my head and see, to my grief, a little white scut just disappearing into the thicket…”

Eugène Delacroix (1798–1863) French painter

Quote in a letter to Delacroix' friend Achille Peron - 16 September 1819, Paris; as quoted in Eugene Delacroix – selected letters 1813 – 1863, ed. and translation Jean Stewart, art Works MFA publications, Museum of Fine Art Boston, 2001, p. 51
1815 - 1830

Dreams, Thinking, Past

“The thirst for powerful sensations takes the upper hand both over fear and over compassion for the grief of others.”

Anton Chekhov (1860–1904) Russian dramatist, author and physician

An Evil Night (1886)

Fear

“And for yourself, may the gods grant you
Your heart's desire, a husband and a home,
And the blessing of a harmonious life.
For nothing is greater or finer than this,
When a man and woman live together
With one heart and mind, bringing joy
To their friends and grief to their foes.”

Stanley Lombardo (1943) Philosopher, Classicist

Book VI, lines 183–189; Odysseus to Nausicaa.
Translations, Odyssey (2000)

Life, God, Home, Heart

“Nothing becomes so offensive so quickly as grief. When fresh it finds someone to console it, but when it becomes chronic, it is ridiculed and rightly.”
Nulla res citius in odium venit quam dolor, qui recens consolatorem invenit et aliquos ad se adducit, inveteratus vero deridetur, nec inmerito.

Seneca the Younger (-4–65 BC) Roman Stoic philosopher, statesman, and dramatist

Line 13 http://books.google.com/books?id=pa1EAQAAIAAJ&q=%22citius+in+odium+venit+quam+dolor+qui+recens+con-solatorem+invenit+et+aliquos+ad+se+adducit+inveteratus+vero+deridetur+nec+inmerito%22&pg=PA436#v=onepage. <br class="br">Epistulae Morales ad Lucilium (Moral Letters to Lucilius), Letter LXIII