Quotes about harm
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“The capacity for denial is an example of the body's sometimes short-sighted vision. Some of the body's automatic responses hurt over the long run more than they help. The formation of scar tissue, for example, prevents the nerves in the spine from reconnecting after an accident. In many injuries, swelling causes more damage than the original trauma.”

Marilyn Ferguson (1938–2008) American writer

The Aquarian Conspiracy (1980), Chapter Three, Brains Changing, Minds Changing

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“When our interests or the interests of those we care for will be hurt, we do not recognize a moral obligation to "let nature take its course," but when we do not want to be bothered with an obligation, "that's just the way the world works" provides a handy excuse.”

Steve F. Sapontzis (1945)

Steve Sapontzis, " Predation https://digitalcommons.calpoly.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1220&context=ethicsandanimals", Ethics and Animals, Vol. 5, Iss. 2, Art. 4 (1984), p. 29

World, Way, Nature

“I made a hurtful and thoughtless comment on Sunday when I said that "I wanted my life back."”

Tony Hayward (1957) British businessman

When I read that recently, I was appalled. I apologize, especially to the families of the 11 men who lost their lives in this tragic accident. "BP CEO Tony Hayward Issues an Apology for Remarks" https://www.facebook.com/notes/bp-america/bp-ceo-tony-hayward-issues-an-apology-for-remarks/431512288412 on BP America Facebook page, as quoted in Gus Lubin, " BP CEO Tony Hayward Apologizes For His Idiotic Statement: 'I'd Like My Life Back' http://www.businessinsider.com/bp-ceo-tony-hayward-apologizes-for-saying-id-like-my-life-back-2010-6", Business Insider, 2 June 2010

Life

“Renunciation is not about pushing something away, it is about letting go. It's facing the fact that certain things cause us pain, and they cause other people pain. Renunciation is a commitment to let go of things that create suffering. It is the intention to stop hurting ourselves and others.”

Noah Levine (1971) American Buddhist teacher

Against the Stream (2007)

Pain, People, Suffering

“I have a deep fear of hurting people…I don’t want to be seen as this kind of person. I don’t want my work to be seen as this type of work.”

Damon Young (writer) (1979) American writer and editor

On the backlash he faced after writing a controversial article about sexual harassment in “White People Often Don’t See Damon Young. That’s About to Change.” https://www.motherjones.com/media/2019/03/white-people-often-dont-see-damon-young-thats-about-to-change/ in Mother Jones (March/April 2019)

People, Fear, Personality

“Some, when they take revenge, are desirous, the party should know, whence it cometh. This is the more generous. For the delight seemeth to be, not so much in doing the hurt, as in making the party repent. But base and crafty cowards, are like the arrow that flieth in the dark.”

Francis Bacon (1561–1626) English philosopher, statesman, scientist, jurist, and author

The Essays Or Counsels, Civil And Moral, Of Francis Ld. Verulam Viscount St. Albans (1857), Revenge

Making love, Revenge

“Be scared. You can't help that. But don’t be afraid. Ain’t nothing in the woods going to hurt you unless you corner it, or it smells that you are afraid. A bear or a deer, too, has got to be scared of a coward the same as a brave man has got to be.”

William Faulkner (1897–1962) American writer

"The Bear” in The Saturday Evening Post (9 May 1942)

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Francis Bacon (1561–1626) English philosopher, statesman, scientist, jurist, and author

The Essays Or Counsels, Civil And Moral, Of Francis Ld. Verulam Viscount St. Albans (1625), Of Revenge

Making love, Revenge

“He that dies in an earnest pursuit, is like one that is wounded in hot blood; who, for the time, scarce feels the hurt; and therefore a mind fixed, and bent upon somewhat that is good, doth avert the dolors of death.”

Francis Bacon (1561–1626) English philosopher, statesman, scientist, jurist, and author

The Essays Or Counsels, Civil And Moral, Of Francis Ld. Verulam Viscount St. Albans (1625), Of Death

Death, Feeling, Time

“It's not the uncomfortable feelings themselves that hurt, it's our resistance to the uncomfortable feelings that causes us pain.”

Teal Swan (1984) American spiritual teacher

Pain, Feeling

“A sex symbol is a heavy load to carry when one is tired, hurt and bewildered.”

Marilyn Monroe (1926–1962) American actress, model, and singer

Attributed to Monroe on social media, but this quote was actually said by Clara Bow.
Misattributed

Sex

“Love is a fire that burns unseen,
A wound that aches yet isn't felt,
An always discontent contentment,
A pain that rages without hurting,A longing for nothing but to long,
A loneliness in the midst of people,
A never feeling pleased when pleased,
A passion that gains when lost in thought.It's being enslaved of your own free will;
It's counting your defeat a victory;
It's staying loyal to your killer.But if it's so self-contradictory,
How can Love, when Love chooses,
Bring human hearts into sympathy?”

Luís de Camões book Rhythmas de Lvis de Camoes

Rimas, Sonnet 81 (as translated by Richard Zenith) Listen to the poem in Portuguese https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ToldDy8izc&feature=youtu.be&t=33s Lyric poetry, Não pode tirar-me as esperanças, Amor é fogo que arde sem se ver Original: (pt) Amor é um fogo qu'arde sem se ver, É ferida que dói, e não se sente, É um contentamento descontente, É dor que desatina sem doer.É um não querer mais que bem querer, É um andar solitário entre a gente, É nunca contentar-se de contente, É um cuidar que ganha em se perder.É querer estar preso por vontade, É servir a quem vence o vencedor É ter com quem nos mata lealdade.Mas como causar pode seu favor Nos corações humanos amizade, Se tão contrário a si é o mesmo Amor?

Love, Pain, People, Making love

“I don't care if it hurts.
I wanna have control.
I want a perfect body.
I want a perfect soul.
I want you to notice
When I'm not around.
You're so fuckin' special;>br>I wish I was special.”

Thom Yorke (1968) English musician, philanthropist and singer-songwriter

Creep
Lyrics, Pablo Honey (1993)

Soul, Perfection

“I write from my soul. This is the reason that critics don’t hurt me, because it is me. If it was not me, if I was pretending to be someone else, then this could unbalance my world, but I know who I am.”

Paulo Coelho (1947) Brazilian lyricist and novelist

World, Soul

“And when boys are hurt, they hurt us—physically, psychologically, and economically.”

Warren Farrell (1943) author, spokesperson, expert witness, political candidate

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 106

Boy

“One thing we have endeavoured to observe most scrupulously, namely, never to depart from the strictest facts and, in dealing with the difficult questions that have arisen during the year, we hope that we have used the utmost moderation possible under the circumstances. Our duty is very simple and plain. We want to serve the community, and in our own humble way to serve the Empire. We believe in the righteousness of the cause, which it is our privilege to espouse. We have an abiding faith in the mercy of the Almighty God, and we have firm faith in the British Constitution. That being so, we should fail in our duty if we wrote anything with a view to hurt. Facts we would always place before our readers, whether they are palatable or not, and it is by placing them constantly before the public in their nakedness that the misunderstanding between the two communities in South Africa can be removed.”

Mahatma Gandhi (1869–1948) pre-eminent leader of Indian nationalism during British-ruled India

Source: Indian Opinion (1 October 1903)

God, Faith, Hope, Way

“Lynchings in the past have significantly shaped race relations in the present. A killing such as George Floyd’s lands on black people with a much heavier psychological weight because of lynching’s legacy. Too many white people fail to recognize this, and that needs to change. The hurt is too great, the simmering fear and anger too volatile, to bury forever. All Americans who would seek or demand a nation that is fairer to every citizen, less racist, and more peaceful have a responsibility to know this history in detail. … Confronting this ugliness would be difficult for everyone, of course, but it should be attempted. Ignorance and denial certainly have not worked, because this American wound still bleeds.”

Guy P. Harrison (1963) American skeptic author

People, Fear, Peace, History

“I went fasting, as is the law. My body hurt but not my heart. When the dawn came, I was out of sight of the village. I prayed and purified myself, waiting for a sign. The sign was an eagle. It flew east.
Sometimes signs are sent by bad spirits. I waited again on the flat rock, fasting, taking no food. I was very still — I could feel the sky above me and the earth beneath. I waited till the sun was beginning to sink. Then three deer passed in the valley going east — they did not mind me or see me. There was a white fawn with them — a very great sign.”

Stephen Vincent Benét book By the Waters of Babylon

Source: By the Waters of Babylon (1937)

Bad luck, Law, Food, Feeling

“People only see the money and cars, and they never saw the hard work or days I was pissing blood because I got hurt training.”

Floyd Mayweather Jr. (1977) American boxer

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Money, People, Cars, Training

“After a year and six months, it's no longer me that you want. But, I love you so much it hurts. Never mistreated you once; I poured my heart out to you. Let down my guard, swear to God. I'll blow my brains in your lap, lay here and die in your arms. Drop to my knees and I'm pleading; I'm trying to stop you from leaving. You won't even listen, so...”

Eminem (1972) American rapper and actor

"Space Bound"
2010s, Recovery (2010)

Love, God, Making love, Heart

“Dance as though no one's watching
Sing as though no one's listening
Love as though you've never been hurt
Work as though you don't need the money.
Live as though it's heaven on earth”

Albert D'Souza (1945) catholic prelate in India

Love, Money, Making love, Singing

“Cal, the world is full of gulpins who don't care who they hurt.”

Bernard MacLaverty book Cal

Source: Novels, Cal (1983), Ch.5 - p.144

World

“A monk's first concern, night and day, should be not to hurt or trouble his brother monks.”

Saint Nimatullah Kassab (1808–1858) Lebanese Maronite monk and saint

Night

“Sticks and stones may break your bones but words can hurt like hell.”

Chuck Palahniuk book Lullaby

Source: Lullaby (2002), Chapter 14

Hell, Hurtful

“The condition of all progress is experience. We go wrong a thousand times before we find the right path. We struggle, and grope, and hurt ourselves until we learn the use of things, and this is true of things spiritual as well as of material things. Pain is unavoidable, but it acquires a new and higher meaning when we perceive that it is the price humanity must pay for an invaluable good.”

Felix Adler (1851–1933) German American professor of political and social ethics, rationalist, and lecturer

Section 8 : Suffering and Consolation
Life and Destiny (1913)

Pain, Learning, Time

“You don’t get to choose if you get hurt in this world, old man, but you do have some say in who hurts you. I like my choices. I hope she likes hers.”

John Green book The Fault in Our Stars

Source: The Fault in Our Stars

World, Hope

“Work like you don't need the money. Love like you've never been hurt. Dance like nobody's watching.”

Satchel Paige (1906–1982) American baseball player and coach; Negro Leagues

Love, Money, Dance, Hurtful

“Something opens our wings. Something makes boredom and hurt disappear. Someone fills the cup in front of us: We taste only sacredness.”

Rumi (1207–1273) Iranian poet

“I forgive the blows that hurt me,”

Paulo Coelho book Aleph

Aleph (2011)

Forgiveness

“I became an MLA because I could no longer stand idly by while I learned more and more about how the previous government was hurting the people I loved. They were hurting members of my family, my community, my neighbours, my colleagues, my friends — and hurt they have been.”

Bowinn Ma (1985) Canadian politician

Bowinn Ma's Response to the September 2017 Throne Speech

Love, People, Family, Communication

“Well, I remember!
I remember, don't worry
How could I ever forget?
It's the first time, the last time we ever met
But, I know the reason why you keep your silence up,
No you don't fool me.
The hurt doesn't show
But the pain still grows
It's no stranger to you and me.”

Phil Collins (1951) English musician, songwriter and actor

"In the Air Tonight"
Face Value (1981)

Pain, Fools, Silence, Time

“All the big things hurt, the things you remember. If it doesn't hurt it's not important.”

Tim Winton book The Turning

Short story, 'Abbreviation' - p.26
Short stories, The Turning (2004)

“I'm so sorry
I didn’t want to hurt people, but I thought they were attacking me.”

James Alex Fields (1997)

2017 video interview with police reported on 4 December 2018 by Reuters https://www.reuters.com/article/us-virginia-protests/driver-sobbed-after-learning-he-killed-woman-at-virginia-rally-idUSKBN1O32DI

People

“If it is beneficial or helpful, then it must be good for the majority; no matter if it hurts you. Individualism must be put to death and allow the majority to prevail.”

Mwanandeke Kindembo (1996) Congolese author

Death, Help

“Nothing is more important than self-respect in our life. It hurts a lot if someone hurts our self-respect. It seems as if we have no value in their eyes, we are torn apart completely and we separate ourselves from the world, but still our self-respect does not allow us to live peacefully throughout life.”

Shabdon Ka Jahan

Life, World

“What's the meaning of life?... what's the purpose? ...Is God cruel and hurts some families by killing babies... allowing other nasty families to grow old...?”

Benjamin Creme (1922–2016) artist, author, esotericist

The State of the World 2010, public lecture in New York City, USA, (July 2010)

Life, God, Family, Baby

“When the People march in one direction, it only hurts to ask awkward questions.”

Bruce Sterling book Islands in the Net

Source: Islands in the Net (1988), Chapter 4 (p. 109)

People, Question

“It doesn’t hurt me unless I interpret its happening as harmful to me. I can choose not to.”

Marcus Aurelius book Meditations

Hays translation
VII, 14
Meditations (c. 121–180 AD), Book VII

“I am dragged in spite of myself in this damn Africa business; a toy which, it is true, will hurt no one; which excites geographers, but which will make people laugh here.”

Jules Devaux (1828–1886) (1828-1886)

Source: All the King's Men' A search for the colonial ideas of some advisers and "accomplices" of Leopold II (1853-1892). (Hannes Vanhauwaert), 4. Viceroys without colonial aspirations? Jules Devaux (1828-1886) http://www.ethesis.net/leopold_II/leopold_II.htm#2.%20 STENGERS, J. “Leopold II between the Far East and Africa 1875-1876.” In: La Conférence de Géographie de Bruxelles, 1876. Koninklijke Academie voor Overzeese wetenschappen, ed. Brussels, 1976, 349.

People, Business

“It hurt like the worst ass-kicking he'd ever gotten. And he'd gotten plenty.”

John Green book An Abundance of Katherines

Colin Singleton, p. 7
An Abundance of Katherines (2006)

“Again, irrationality can hurt, and here we have evidence that a particular form of it is widespread. The people accused around hurt, and the clients—be they children or grown adults—are hurt. Irrationality is not simply an amusing diversion provided by tarot cards or Ouija boards.”

Robyn Dawes (1936–2010) American psychologist

Source: Everyday Irrationality: How Pseudo-Scientists, Lunatics, and the Rest of Us Systematically Fail to Think Rationally (2001), Chapter 9, “Sexual Abuse Hysteria” (p. 179)

Children, People

“Just being alive
It can really hurt
These moments given
Are a gift from time.

Just let us try
To give these moments back
To those we love
To those who will survive...”

Kate Bush (1958) British recording artist; singer, songwriter, musician and record producer

Source: Song lyrics, The Red Shoes (1993)

Love, Time

“I learned that comprehending someone’s heartache is, unfortunately, very often the only way to stop condemning them…I learned that most of us wouldn’t necessarily do certain things over again—like not partake in a moment of passion—even if we know how long it might stay with us/hurt us.”

Lisa Taddeo (1980) American writer and journalist

Source: On what she learned after completing Three Women in “Three Women Author Lisa Taddeo: ‘You Are Seen’” https://www.bookish.com/articles/lisa-taddeo-three-women-interview/ in Bookish (2019 Jul 9)

Way, Learning, Passion

“Honor is something we all profess,
But most of us cheat—some more, some less—
An' the real test isn't the way we do
When there isn't a pinch in either shoe;
It's whether we're true to our best or not
When the right thing's certain to hurt a lot.”

Edgar Guest (1881–1959) American writer

The True Man, stanza 3
Source: When Day is Done (1921)

Shoe, Way, Cheating

“If you have hurt even a single innocent person, even if you remain independent, that struggle for independence will never be considered a victory.”

Mustafa Dzhemilev (1943) Leader of the Crimean Tatar National Movement

Source: Dünya Demokrasi Hareketi şeref belgesi töreni http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=7414118294379483231 (5 April 2006)

Victory, Personality

“I must get out on the trails once more that wind through shadowy haunts and cool,
Away from the presence of wall and door, and see myself in a crystal pool;
I must get out with the silent things, where neither laughter nor hate is heard,
Where malice never the humblest stings and no one is hurt by a spoken word.”

Edgar Guest (1881–1959) American writer

Source: All That Matters (1922), p.11 - The Call, stanza 2.

Hate, Laughter

“I’ve taught public school for 26 years but I just can’t do it anymore. For years I asked the local school board and superintendent to let me teach a curriculum that doesn’t hurt kids, but they had other fish to fry. So I’m going to quit, I think. I’ve come slowly to understand what it is I really teach: A curriculum of confusion, class position, arbitrary justice, vulgarity, rudeness, disrespect for privacy, indifference to quality, and utter dependency. I teach how to fit into a world I don’t want to live in.”

John Taylor Gatto (1935–2018) American teacher, book author

Source: "I Quit, I Think" (1991)

World, School, Justice, Understanding

“I don’t really have a lot of desires, or that’s what I think of myself. But if I were to pick one, I would want for people to live peacefully. I don’t understand why some people harass or hurt others, or why they do these things because they envy others — we fight and wound each other and it might be a natural phenomenon that arises among weak humans, but I still hurt thinking about social issues such as Asian hate.”

Gong Yoo (1979) South Korean actor

Source: "Gong Yoo talks life, death and 20 years in the business" in Korea JoongAng Daily https://koreajoongangdaily.joins.com/2021/04/19/entertainment/movies/Gong-Yoo-actor-interview/20210419145803689.html (19 April 2021)

Hate, People, Understanding, Nature

“It hurts but I never show
This pain you'll never know
If only you could see just how lonely and how cold and frostbit I've become
My back's against the wall
When push come to shove I just stand up and scream: "Fuck 'em all!"”

Eminem (1972) American rapper and actor

"Drop the World" (featured on Lil Wayne's Rebirth, 2009)
2000s

Pain

“But you can't just stand there and try to judge
It hurts but your jealousy probably tears you up inside as much
And it's such a pleasure every button that I touch
I treasure every glutton that I punish in my lust”

Eminem (1972) American rapper and actor

"Stimulate" (from 8 Mile, 2002)
2000s

Pleasure, Jealousy, Tear

“Can an Enlightened individual protect others from being hurt. A Sentinel protecting the pure.”

Kbrown76

“I consider that goodness of being and doing constitute the rock-bottom of one’s life. By goodness I mean the capacity to feel with others and to live and feel as others do, and be in a position to act so that no one is hurt by the act.”

Swami Sivananda (1887–1963) Indian philosopher

What Life Has Taught Me
Autobiography of Swami Sivananda (1958)

Life, Feeling

“Human beings have this peculiar capacity that no other creatures have: I know how I can be hurt, because I am aware of my own limitations–painfully aware—and now, because I know how I can be hurt, I know how you can be hurt, and I can take advantage of that. And that's how evil enters the world.”

Jordan Peterson (1962) Canadian clinical psychologist, cultural critic, and professor of psychology

Unsourced

World, Evil

“I wasn't an especially rebellious child, but I can say I gave my parents a lot of trouble at times. Because I had a lot of guts and was always taking risks, I either got hurt or sometimes broke other people's things and caused problems. I always sparked a lot of trouble.”

Wei Jingsheng (1950) Chinese democracy activist and dissident

Interview with the Institute of International Studies, UC Berkeley (1998), Background

People, Problem, Parent, Time

“I don't want to drop salt on the wound, as it already hurts.”

Viktor Yanukovych (1950) Ukrainian politician who was the President of Ukraine

Speaking of the proposed increases of utility prices
Source: [Янукович взялся за старое, хоть и не хочет “капать соль на рану”, http://www.pravda.com.ua/rus/news/2009/05/28/4487095/, 2022-06-12, Украинская правда, ru, 2009-05-28]

“Peace will come only if we truly love one another. We might have hurt others and the environment in the past, and we should repent in this new year.”

Eduardus Sangsun (1943–2008) Indonesian bishop (1943-2008)

Church Leaders Ask People to Work For Peace, Care For Nature https://www.ucanews.com/story-archive/?post_name=/2008/01/10/church-leaders-ask-people-to-work-for-peace-care-for-nature&post_id=29096 (9 January 2008)

Love, Peace, Past

“Beauty can be sad. You're proof of that.
When the damage is done, you're damaged goods.
That's not to say it's not okay.
I wouldn't have it any other way.A heart, a heart that hurts, is a heart, a heart that works.”

Juliana Hatfield (1967) American guitarist/singer-songwriter and author

"Universal Heart-Beat" · official video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LMx8FVUgxIM Only Everything (1995)

Sadness, Beauty, Heart

“Nothing is more irritating and hurtful than a person who makes promises and breaks them over and over again. It shows lack of consideration for the other's feelings and also means the person cannot be trusted or relied upon. Do not make promises you feel you may not be able to keep, because besides being irritating, it also ruins character.”

Stephie Pahlavi Zan

Feeling, Personality

“Sometimes to achieve greatness, you do, you have to cut off a little piece of yourself no matter how much it hurts, in order to grow, in order to move on. It takes courage and I admire that, you know?”

movie Legend (2015)

Courage

“Of course, most people will insist on defending their personal ego and they will do so blindly, even daring to hurt and ignore the interests of other people.”

Titon Rahmawan

People, Personality

“How can we value love? Everyone knows and realizes that love is vulnerable and easily hurt.”

Titon Rahmawan

Love

“There are very bad indiduals. They are liars, cowards and petty. They try to hurt you in any way because they can't stand that you are better than them. They are the most dangerous because, on top of that, they pretend to be your friends.”

Prevale (1983) Italian DJ and producer

Original: Esistono individui molto cattivi. Sono bugiardi, codardi e meschini. Cercano di farti del male in qualsiasi modo perché non sopportano che tu sia migliore di loro. Sono i più pericolosi perché, oltretutto, fingono di esserti amici.
Source: prevale.net

Way

“Be very careful in expressing some words. They often have a strong emotional impact on a person and can hurt them more than your mind can imagine.”

Prevale (1983) Italian DJ and producer

Original: Fate molta attenzione nell'esprimere alcune parole. Spesso hanno un forte impatto emotivo su una persona e possono ferirla più di quanto la vostra mente possa immaginare.
Source: prevale.net

Imagination, Strong, Personality

“Disappointment and hurt are feelings that don't go away easily. An apology alone often does not heal them.”

Titon Rahmawan

Disappointment, Feeling

“Underestimating, demeaning, insulting, and hurting others is actually a form of release of insecurity, disappointment, dissatisfaction, and hatred towards oneself.”

Titon Rahmawan

Disappointment

“Only an ignorant person does not know the difference between criticism and humiliation. All attempts to demean, hurt, and put down with sarcasm, harsh words, curses, and mockery that deny manners and politeness. All actions that provoke anger, irritation and cause hurt feelings are not a form of criticism but humiliation.”

Titon Rahmawan

Feeling, Personality, Anger

“Always have your own way of being in the world. For those who listen to you, you will be an example, those who love you will know that they cannot possess you, and those who have hurt you will not try to touch you again.”

Prevale (1983) Italian DJ and producer

Original: Abbiate sempre un vostro modo di stare nel mondo. Per chi vi ascolta sarete un esempio, chi vi ama saprà che non potrà possedervi e chi vi avrà fatto del male, non proverà più a toccarvi.
Source: prevale.net

Love, World, Way

“Honor to single people, which, despite the loneliness hurts, do not fill it with just anyone.”

Prevale (1983) Italian DJ and producer

Original: Onore alle persone single, le quali, nonostante la solitudine faccia male, non la riempiono con chiunque.
Source: prevale.net

People, Loneliness

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