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Warren Thomas Farrell is an American educator, activist and author of seven books on men's and women's issues.

Farrell initially came to prominence in the 1970s as a supporter of second wave feminism; he served on the New York City Board of the National Organization for Women . Although today he is generally considered "the father of the men's movement", he advocates that "there should be neither a women's movement blaming men, nor a men's movement blaming women, but a gender liberation movement freeing both sexes from the rigid roles of the past toward more flexible roles for their future."His books cover history, law, sociology and politics ; couples' communication ; economic and career issues ; child psychology and child custody ; and teenage to adult psychology and socialization . All of his books are related to men's and women's studies, including his March 2018 publication The Boy Crisis. Wikipedia  

✵ 26. June 1943
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Warren Farrell Quotes

“If the life of a beloved woman—whether romantic partner or mother—is at risk, his life is at risk.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 241

“Does the new heroine mean your son won’t have to risk his life for her love?”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 239

“To be a hero is to be emotionally constipated.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 237

“When boys and men are told they are needed, they respond, and become responsible.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 231

“Guns are not the cause of the boy crisis, but as we are working on the causes, the control of guns can limit the damage of dad-deprived sons.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 229

“If we get more of what we pay for, then let’s pay to get more dads, rather than pay more when dads are absent.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 227

“We spend billions to get from dads the money few of them have, and virtually nothing to allow dads to give the time they do have—the time their children need.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 223

“Mastery of content that is measurable, tangible, and translates into respect.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 210

“The future will increasingly see the home place becoming the work place.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 203

“A mom has the right to children, but a dad has to fight for children.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 191

“The word “warrior” is not added lightly. A warrior makes himself aware of the barriers to achieving his purpose. Then, rather than focus on what is standing in his way, a warrior focuses on how to get past those barriers. Which is exactly what he’ll be teaching his children.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 176

“Parenting plans should be consistent.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 165

“Among guys, if you can’t tease ’em, you can’t trust ’em.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 152

“Playing with dad is like being on a roller coaster—kids are excited because they feel safe.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 142

“Empathy is a virtue which, when it only goes from parent to child, and is not required of the child, becomes a vice.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 138

“Careers are for Now, Children are Forever.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 113

“And when boys are hurt, they hurt us—physically, psychologically, and economically.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 106

“Dads—like moms, air, and water—are essential to our lives.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 105

“The discipline of postponing gratification is the single most important discipline your son needs.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 98

“In the traditional male hero’s hierarchy of needs, self-actualization is nowhere to be found—because the more he values himself, the less he is willing to sacrifice himself.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 97

“The traditional male hero is about self-sacrifice, not self-actualization.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 97

“Pick-up sports are excellent preparation for entrepreneurship.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 94

“Exercise helps build the muscle of a child’s brain even more effectively than studying.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 94

“We interview people who are extraordinary successes, so they are visible. We ignore people who create a balanced life, so they are invisible.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 93

“A key measure of emotional intelligence is knowing that every virtue taken to its extreme becomes a vice.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 89

“Boys who are not interested in school almost always have an interest that can be catalyzed into future employment if it is pursued via hands-on experience.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 87

“Should your son follow his bliss, it’s most likely the money he’ll miss.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 83

“Women who have the option of being economically self-sustaining will increasingly want your son to also have emotional and relationship intelligence.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 82

“And without love, your son’s purpose has no purpose.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 77

“The women who were best able to grow spiritually and psychologically had married men who were the least able to grow.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 71

“Many of the qualities your son develops to kill in war—or be a hero at work—undermine the qualities it takes to love at home.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 68

“The pay of the volunteer fireman? Praise. Respect. Purpose.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 67

“In The Deadliest Catch, the death the men face is the source of entertainment, but not of concern.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 67

“Your son learns the “hero paradox”: to value himself by not valuing himself.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 65

“The word hero derives from the root *ser-, from which we also get the word “servant.””

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 61

“The women’s movement warned every girl how marriage can seduce her to make a sacrifice of her career. But no one warned every boy how marriage can seduce him to make a sacrifice in his career.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 57

“Your son’s heroes didn’t climb traditional ladders—they built their own.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 53

“Your son may simultaneously feel that the male role is pressuring him to feel obligated to earn money someone else spends while he dies sooner.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 52

“Whether or not we know our dad, we have a relationship with him. The relationship in our mind is our relationship.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 51

“Fatherhood was about your dad trading in the old glint in his eye—what he loved to do—for the new glint in his eye: his love for you.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 48

“The road to high pay is a toll road.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 48

“If he followed his bliss, it’s the money you’d miss.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 48

“Whether we call it ikigai or sense of purpose, when we pursue what we believe gives life meaning, it gives us life.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 46

“The more a boy represses his feelings and puts armor around his heart, the harder it is to open our hearts to him.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 36

“To win wars, we had to train our sons to be disposable. We honored boys if they died so we could live. We called them heroes.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 36

“Sensitivity to the death and suffering of boys and men is in competition with our survival instinct.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 36