Warren Farrell: Quotes about children

“Schools currently excel in encouraging children to express opinions, but are deficient in encouraging children to say, for example, “Oh, that’s different from my perspective – tell me more.””

Warren Farrell

Source: Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000), p. 36.

Children , School

“Women will risk their lives to protect children, but rarely risk their lives to protect an adult man.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 230.

Women , Children

“Programs like TANF (Temporary Assistance to Needy Families, formerly known as AFDC) and WIC (Women, Infants, and Children) subsidize the exclusion of dads. In effect, they create, as we have seen, future welfare recipients. Or tax spenders.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 114.

Women , Children , Family , Future

“Just as women needed the help of the law to enter the workplace in the 20th century, men will need the help of the law to love their children in the 21st century.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 122.

Love , Women , Men , Children

“The more a man is trained to “be a man,” the more he is trained to protect women and children, not hurt women and children. He is trained to volunteer to die before even a stranger is hurt – especially a woman or child.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Women , Children , Hurt , Training

“Men for whom divorce means walking out of their children’s lives except when they choose to see the children are the male equivalent of the adolescent feminists: men who want options without obligations. Morally, they have no right to walk out. A law that allows that is similarly immoral. “Primary Parent” laws are just such laws.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 167.

Men , Children , Law , Parent

“When a man is forced into early retirement, he is often being ‘given up for a younger man.’ Being forced into early retirement can be to a man what being ‘given up for a younger woman’ is for a woman… Why do many men get more upset by retirement than women do from the empty nest —when their children leave home? When females retire from children, they can try a career; when a man retires from a career, his children are gone.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 174.

Women , Men , Children , Home

“The irony of primary parent laws is that on the one hand feminists were arguing for women’s equal rights to jointly-created career assets that emanated from the male financial womb, but arguing against men’s equal rights to jointly-created children that emanated from the woman’s child-bearing womb.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 167.

Women , Men , Children , Law

“After a divorce, men’s biggest fear is, typically, losing their children (women’s is poverty).”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 190.

Women , Men , Children , Fear

“Farrell’s other eleven defenses are The PMS Defense; The Husband Defense (Warren, I don’t quite know how to summarize this one—not sure I get it); The ‘Battered Woman Syndrome’ Defense, aka Learned Helplessness; ‘The Depressed Mother’ Defense; The ‘Mothers Don’t Kill’ Defense; The ‘Children Need Their Mother’ Defense; The ‘Blame-The-Father, Understand-The-Mother’ Defense; The ‘My Child, My Right To Abuse It’ Defense; The Plea Bargain Defense; The Svengali Defense; and The Contract Killing Defense.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, Chapter 12.

Children , Understanding , Learning

““Visitation” reflects the era of the absentee father; “parent time” influences the re-emergence of the involved father. “Visitation” reflects the destruction of the family; “parent time” influences the reconstruction of the family. “Parent time” influences an era that understands that as either parents loses, so lose the children.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 187.

Children , Family , Understanding , Parent

“At this moment in history, millions of 'working dads' are desiring to do what they do not feel they have the right to do: be more devoted as a dad, less devoted as a worker. This feeling is far more ubiquitous among men executives than women executives in many areas of the world because, for instance, Asia-Pacific women executives today are more than six times as likely to not have children than men executives are. The Asia-Pacific executive man is about six times as likely to be a working dad as an executive woman is to be a working mom.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 113.

Women , Men , Children , World

“When a dad admits he is wrong or asks for help, he allows the child to see him- or herself as adequate even when she or he is also wrong. It encourages children to make suggestions and, therefore, to discover their creativity because they have a chance of making a contribution.”

Warren Farrell

page 120.
Father and Child Reunion (2001)

Children , Chance , Help

“In a sense, in the area of child care, children's relationships with parents' working has come full circle. We have gone from the mom-and-pop store (or mom-and-pop farm), with its integration of child care and work, to children-at-home and dad-at-work; to the mom-plus-daddy working at home, with its integration of childcare and work again. From mom-and-pop back to mom-and-pop.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 131.

Children , Home , Moms , Parent

“We need to fund relationship language in our schools so that future parents will know how to communicate about whether they want children; to communicate with the children they have, and teach their children how to communicate with the world. Technical progress without social skills is a Tower of Babel.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 243.

Children , World , School , Communication

“No legend told its children of beautiful princesses falling in love with conscientious objectors.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Love , Children , Beauty , Princess

“Feminists often discuss women having two jobs: work and children. True. But no one discusses those divorced and remarried men who have three jobs: work, and two sets of children to nurture and financially support.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 163.

Women , Men , Children , Support

“Our love for children is so immediate in part because we feel their powerlessness immediately; conversely, part of the way we deny our love for men is by denying men’s powerlessness. Too often we have confused love for men with respect for them, especially for their power to take care of us---which is really just love for ourselves.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 360.

Love , Men , Children , Way

“Women are socialized to take advantage of four informal options for emotional support: husbands; womenfriends; children; and parents. Men are socialized to take advantage of only one of these informal options: their wife or womanfriend.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Women , Men , Children , Support

“Industrialization created the “Father’s Catch-22”: a dad loving his children by being away from the love of his children.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 88.

Love , Children