Warren Farrell: Quotes about children (page 3)

“Since no one is always right, always being right is really a role model for his children feeling inadequate.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 120.

Children , Feeling

“From a woman’s perspective, sharing parent time feels like what a man might experience if his ex-wife came to his office and shared his career. He might claim the sharing is not in the best interests of the employer. But what he really would be caring about is the affront should his ex-wife do as good as he at his own job. While the fear is understandable, the difference is that his career is his, their children are theirs.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 191.

Children , Fear , Feeling , Understanding

“The more our children see men being paid to take responsibility for children, the more respectable it will be for men to do work compatible with their role as dads.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 115.

Men , Children

“Most mothers want more of dad in their children’s lives, not less.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 186.

Children

“When I see dads being most effective with children, it is usually when they have an intuitive understanding that, for example, the car trip to and from the soccer game is potentially as important as the game itself.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 118.

Children , Cars , Game , Understanding

“If we want our children to have a balance between their abilities to earn money and show love, it will help if both their parents model that balance.”

Warren Farrell

page 114.
Father and Child Reunion (2001)

Love , Money , Children , Parent

“If we both ignore the unique contribution of “male-style” parenting and jail a man who responsibly contributes it, fatherhood becomes another hazardous occupation. More precisely, it becomes the largest 100%-male hazardous occupation. And in the process, our children lose one of the greatest potential gifts of Stage II -- genuine fatherhood. That’s the bad news. The good news is that there are ways of creating a father and child reunion….”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 237.

Children , Way , Parent

“Many women are discovering that the motherhood instinct implies a responsibility to be certain children have dads -- everyday, not far away; and some are aware that economic independence requires not holding on to her child as if it were her job.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 239.

Women , Children

“The Industrial Revolution, then, took men’s occasional absence from home -- previously needed only in wartime and for hunting -- and made it the norm. This increasing division of labor magnified the division of men’s and women’s interests. It magnified the belief in the maternal instinct and the reality of the distant father. Prior to industrialization, divorces usually led to children living with dads. Not after.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 88.

Women , Men , Children , Home

“Both parents’ rights must be in balance so children can grow up with a balance between both parents.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 126.

Children , Parent

“Teaching children to debate without teaching children to listen is divorce training.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000), p. 36.

Children , Training

“After a conflict, women are not only more likely to turn to other womenfriends for support, but are nine times more likely to be with their children should conflict become divorce.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Women , Children , Support , Time

“The most unacknowledged spending expectation among women is the amount of time spent by single mothers caring for children, not only physically, but psychologically. It is my feeling that only a small percentage of a mother’s time is normally compensated for by child support, given what a woman could make adding these hours to workforce hours… It is why women who have never been married and never had children earn so much more in the workplace than women who have had children.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 222.

Women , Children , Feeling , Support

“When we don't take years of experience into account, it is easy for a woman to become discouraged when she reads headlines such as 'Study of TV News Directors Finds Discrimination Against Women.' When a woman in the mid-1980's read that TV news directors who were women got paid about 27% less than men directors, it might have made her avoid the field… If, on the other hand, a headline more accurately reflecting the study's core findings, read 'Female Managers Become TV News Directors Three Times as Quickly as Men,' well, that would have made a woman feel wanted… In brief, the road to higher pay is a toll road. But at this point in history, there are female tollbooths and male tollbooths, and the toll charged to women is lower. This should encourage every woman who wishes to embark on the road to higher pay to take it while the tolls are still low, and every man who wishes to be with his children--or just wishes to support the career-focused woman he loves--to be aware that there was never a better time to be a great dad and go with your wife's flow.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 85-87.

Love , Women , Men , Children

“Here’s the pay paradox that Why Men Earn More explains: Men earn more money, therefore men have more power; and men earn more money, therefore men have less power (earning more money as an obligation, not an option). The opposite is true for women: Women earn less money, therefore women have less power; and women earn less money, therefore women have more power”

Warren Farrell

the option to raise children, or to not take a hazardous job
Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 11.

Women , Men , Money , Children

“There is virtually no funding to study the validity of the more muted complaints of men: to study when a false accusation is being used as a weapon to keep the children from dad; or when the child is being bad-mouthed by the other parent; or when access to the child is being prevented; or when statistics about deadbeat dads are including men who are dead, unemployed, or denied their children; or when men are victims of domestic violence.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 241.

Men , Children , Parent , Study

“We spend billions to get from dads the money few of them have, and virtually nothing to allow dads to give the time they do have—the time their children need.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 223

Money , Children , Time

“A mom has the right to children, but a dad has to fight for children.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 191

Fight , Children , Moms

“The word “warrior” is not added lightly. A warrior makes himself aware of the barriers to achieving his purpose. Then, rather than focus on what is standing in his way, a warrior focuses on how to get past those barriers. Which is exactly what he’ll be teaching his children.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 176

Way , Past , Children , Making love

“Careers are for Now, Children are Forever.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 113

Children