Warren Farrell: Quotes about children (page 2)

“There are many ways in which a woman experiences a greater sense of powerlessness than her male counterpart: the fears of pregnancy, aging, rape, date rape, and being physically overpowered; less socialization to take a career that pays enough to support a husband and children[…] Fortunately, almost all industrialized nations have acknowledged these female experiences. Unfortunately, they have acknowledged only the female experience.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part 1: The Myth of Male Power, p. 28.

Children , Age , Fear , Way

“We have restricted humans from giving ‘free’ food to bears and dolphins because we know that such feeding would make them dependent and lead to their extinction. But when it comes to our own species, we have difficulty seeing the connection between short-term kindness and long-term cruelty; we give women money to have more children, making them more dependent with each child and discouraging them from developing the tools to fend for themselves. The real discrimination against women, then, is ‘free feeding’.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 346.

Women , Money , Children , Food

“A paucity of funding from private and government sources would be much less a problem if billions of dollars each year were not funding feminist perspectives on men. This funding leads to Women’s Studies without Men’s Studies; to studies about deadbeat dads, but not dead broke or dead-ended dads -- or moms who deny dads access to children, or make false accusations to obtain children.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 240.

Women , Men , Children , Moms

“By starving our children of men, we have made them more vulnerable to the very abuse we are trying to prevent.”

Warren Farrell

page 97.
Father and Child Reunion (2001)

Men , Children

“Raising children was not designed for single parents. (Which is why divorce was such a taboo prior to birth control.)”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 187.

Children , Birth , Parent

“Single women often fear that the men they are going out with wouldn't be comfortable with less career and more child. Perhaps. If a woman selects a man with a lot of career ambition, she'll get what she selected. The solution? Choose among men who would love to be married to a career woman who valued his being home full-time with the children for a few years. Can't find these men? State your interest on your Match. com profile--the Internet's the best net to catch the right fish. You'll be surprised.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 83-84.

Love , Women , Men , Children

“If we penalize mothers for denial of “visitation time” we must also penalize fathers who don’t show up for “visitation time.” The issue is not fathers’ rights to visitation time, but both parents obligations to their children. The issue is how to make both parents real parents despite what parenting was never designed to deal with -- divorce.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 187.

Children , Parent , Time

“The deeper purpose of a more positive attitude toward men is a better life for the children who are parented by the men who are their dads and stepdads; less shame for our sons who will become men; and, for our daughters, a deeper understanding of men's desire to please that leaves them feeling their willingness to please is not unrequited but returned--allowing our daughters to feel less lonely and more loved. If we earn more and love less, we pay for a home in which we do not live.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 123.

Love , Life , Men , Children

“Our children are better served by speaking not of “visitation” versus “custody,” but of “parent time.””

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 187.

Children , Parent , Time

“If we hold the married man accountable for finances gone legally awry, then the married woman should be held accountable for children who go awry.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 250.

Children

“From these biased studies come biased social policy. Hundreds of millions of dollars to enforce sanctions against fathers who don’t pay mothers; almost nothing to enforce sanctions against mothers who don’t allow fathers to see children.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 241.

Children , Study

“Whether in a South African coal mine, on an Alaskan fishing boat, or in the American military, men's protective instinct toward women, and women's protective instinct toward themselves (and children) keeps men more disposable than women. Here's an example of the dynamic at work in the military. At the military's SERE (survival, evasion, resistance, and escape) schools, concern about the well-being of women was so prevalent among male students that trainers now work to desensitize men to sexual assault and other abuse of women lest their sensitivity be used against them in war. We think of women in the military as being safer in part because they are still prohibited from the most dangerous assignments. But this prohibition is just a reflection of the traditional male's instinct to protect women.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 33.

Women , Men , War , Children

“We often hear that mothers do the caring; fathers just do the playing. This is a false dichotomy -- even a dangerous one -- because fathers’ particular style of play involves both a conscious focus on teaching and, as the research is now showing, is instructive to children even when it is not consciously designed to be so.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 57.

Children , Falseness

“In a Stage I survival-focused world, a father needed to be a problem-solver. He needed to “tough it out” by denying feelings. He needed to persuade, argue, debate, set rules, distinguish right from wrong without flexibility. These skills made him “eligible,” they brought him a wife and children. In every sense of the word, these skills were his relationship language. Problem is, “toughing it out” fed his loved ones’ mouths, but didn’t nurture his loved ones’ souls.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 116.

Love , Children , World , Feeling

“Perhaps the biggest appreciation adjustment we need is toward the millions of men and women we call stepparents. We have taken for granted especially the stepparents who are raising no children of their own, and receiving no income from a significant other, but who have nevertheless chosen to invest love, time and money in children.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 246.

Love , Women , Men , Money

“When women entered the workplace, many men were mentors to them and, in turn, also learned to respect women’s unique contributions (for example, their listening and facilitative skills). Now, as we give men responsibilities to care for children, women must be among the mentors, and we must also learn to respect men’s unique contributions.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 236.

Women , Men , Children , Learning

“The people considered the most in need of protection were women and children. The sex considered most disposable was men – or males….”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Women , Men , Children , People

“What is the impact on our children of this international “Sisterhood is Victimhood” bonding?”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Children

“The Male Teacher Corps not only exposes children to men from a variety of professions, but exposes children to men with more risk-taking, entrepreneurial male energy and values, creating a balance between exposure to the male and female value systems.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 116.

Men , Children , Teachers

“Hochschild’s biggest mistake, though, was one made by almost every popularized housework study: not adequately measuring men’s contribution to work around the home. For example, if mom drives the children to daycare, it’s called housework; if dad drives the family to grandma’s, it isn’t called housework.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Men , Children , Family , Home