Deb Caletti Quotes

“You've got to have someone who loves your body. Who doesn't define you, but sees you. Who loves what he sees. Who you don't have to struggle to be good enough for.”

“You've got to say what you mean and mean what you say… Doubt in your voice is an open door people will shove right through.”

“When what you want is a relationship, and not a person, get a dog.”

“Once an asshole, always an asshole.”

“To an untrained eye, need and love were as easily mistaken for each other as the real master's painting and a forgery.”

“They say religion is about love, but you wonder how much of it really is about fear.”

“The most basic and somehow forgettable thing is this: Love is not pain. Love is goodness. And real love--it's less shiny than solid and simple.”

“I shouldn't have to be a liar to make someone love me. I shouldn't be so afraid of losing someone that I'll do anything to make them stay.”

“Too often in my life, love has been defined as "humiliation with occasional roses".”

“Maybe I was being too picky. Maybe I didn't want to be close to anyone. Maybe I'd just be the type who couldn't feel love all the way or something. I couldn't tell what was wrong, but what was wrong was that it just wasn't right.”

“Rejection, though--it could make the loss of someone you weren't even that crazy about feel gut wrenching and world ending.”

“Maybe we all just want to feel special, even for a little while, to be fooled for a bit into feeling something besides the truth of our own ordinariness.”

“Maybe sometimes you just feel like everything can be taken from you all at once.”

“Those questions you have? Whether he's the one, whether you feel about him the way you should, or whether the relationship is going okay? When you're not sure whether you're in love with someone or not, the answer is not.”

“And pity--people who inspire it in you are actually very powerful people. To get someone else to take care of you, to feel sorry for you--that takes a lot of strength, smarts, manipulation. Very powerful people.”

“It was one of those times you feel a sense of loss, even though you didn't have something in the first place. I guess that's what disappointment is- a sense of loss for something you never had.”

“The loneliness you feel with another person, the wrong person, is the loneliest of all.”

“If letting go, if letting people and things work themselves out in the way that they needed to without your help was the most important thing, then it was also the hardest.”

“We should not give away a moment to anyone who does not deserve it.”

“If you look up "charming" in the dictionary, you'll see that it not only has references to strong attraction, but to spells and magic. Then again, what are liars if not great magicians?”

“It's good to let God pick a man for you. We don't do so well when we pick them ourselves. They end up lipsticks in a drawer, all those wrong colors you thought looked so good in the package.”

“People are secretive when they have secrets.”

“I guess forgiveness, like happiness, isn’t a final destination. You don’t one day get there and get to stay.”

“Love can come when you're already who you are, when you're filled with you. Not when you look to someone else to fill the empty space.”

“Are you getting your period?" She narrows her eyes.
No! God. I hate that. I hate when every negative act is blamed on your period." Sometimes bitchiness is just bitchiness, happily unattached to anything hormonal. It should get full credit.”

“It took me years to figure out that upset was upset, and tumultuousness was not the same thing as passion. Love isn't drama.”

“Sometimes that´s all you need…, to know it´s not broken. To know you’re still whole and that you’ll heal.”

“A lady I will be, but a man's accessory, his handbag, no thank you. I will not be someone's ornament. I will not just be someone's honey, baby, sweetheart.”

“I was like a chocolate in a box, looking well behaved and perfect in place, all the while harboring a secret center.”

“Marriage is like a well-built porch. If one of the two posts leans too much, the porch collapses. So each must be strong enough to stand on its own.”

“We can get so wrapped up in our own misconceptions that we miss the simple beauty of the truth.”

“But sometimes, too, you have this little feeling of knowing, this fuzzy, gnawing sense that someone will become a major something in your life. You just know that theirs will be a life you will enter and become a part of.”

“Sometimes good choices are really bad ones, wrapped up in so much fear you can't even see straight.”

“Funny the only two times we use the phrase "seeing someone" are when we are referring to being in a a relationship or getting psychological help.”

“Just because it turned out bad, doesn’t mean it wasn’t meant.”

“You can want one thing and have a secret wish for its opposite.”

“You have ordinary moments and ordinary moments and more ordinary moments, and then, suddenly, there is something monumental right there. You have past and future colliding in the present, your own personal Big Bang, and nothing will ever be the same.”

“An untold story has a weight that can submerge you, sure as a sunken ship at the bottom of the ocean.”

“It occurred to me then that a lot of life was either about wanting and not having, or having and not wanting.”

“One of the hardest tasks as a human being is knowing when to keep an open mind, and when not to.”

“I would have spoken, had my heart not been in my throat”

“It can be exhausting eating a meal cooked by a man. With a woman, it's, Ho hum, pass the beans. A guy, you have to act like he just built the Taj Mahal.”

“I finally learned that it was all right to say something wasn’t working for me when it wasn’t working. The world doesn’t come crashing down when you speak the truth.”

“Hurt is a weapon. Better weapon than most because it doesn't look like one.”

“The scariest part of forever is that nothing is.”

“It's shocking the things we call love.”

“You can hold a secret, hold it so far in that it drives nearly every thought and every move you make- your very heartbeat, almost.”

“Darkness does this. It finds all the places you are hiding in. It finds all the things you are holding onto tightly and makes you let go.”

“Sometimes you've got to make a mess before you clean it up.”

“But what I wanted back had never really been there. He was a temporary illusion, a mirage of water after walking in the desert. I had made him up. And he could have killed me. You've got to stop the ride sometimes. Stop it and get off.”

“Maybe a person's world can grow bigger in all the right ways, not too wide that it becomes shallow, just large enough to preserve its depth.”

“It was all the things you could never understand and could never possess that made you ache.”

“A person could leave you so quickly. So much history and time and memories, but they snuck away from you, and other things took their place. How could you hold on? Wait. A bigger question. The biggest. How could you hold on and
let go?”

“So I put up with bad behavior in the name of loving the way I thought you were supposed to love.”

“… wanting things for the wrong reasons can turn anyone's life into a marshmallow on a stick over a hot fire: impossibly messy and eventually consumed, one way or another.”

“I don't get why prom is like a mini-wedding these days… No one should spend that kind of money for a high school dance.”

“I've wished for things and never really had the chance… It's time to stop dreaming and do something about it. You've got to know what you want, then… go.”

“Anyway, madness and genius. They're the disturbed pals of the human condition. The Bonnie and Clyde, the Thelma and Louise, the baking soda and vinegar. Insanity just walks alongside the brilliant like some creepy, insistent shadow.”

“Sometimes you're sure dogs have some secret, superior intelligence, and other times you know they're only their simple, goofy selves.”

“I'd always thought telling the truth to other people was hard, but maybe that was a snap compared to telling the truth to yourself. Sometimes we just refused to know what we knew.”

“My subconscious speaks in a foreign language.”

“Supposedly there's an actual, researched link between extreme creativity and mental illness, and I believe it because I've seen it with my own eyes.”

“No one is ever quite as strong or as weak as you'd think.”

“If your life truths have to be protected like some people keep their couches in plastic then ciao. have a nice life. if we bump into eachoter at Target, i'm the one buying the sour gummy worms and thats all you need to know about me.”

“Sometimes I’ve even wished there was a human pause button, where you could choose some point in your life where you could stay always.”

“I began to learn the importance of lifting things up and looking underneath.”