“True love is not the helpless desire to possess the cherished object of one's fervent affection; true love is the disciplined generosity we require of ourselves for the sake of another when we would rather be selfish; that, at least, is how I have taught myself to love my wife.”

— Stephen L. Carter , book The Emperor of Ocean Park

Source: The Emperor of Ocean Park (2002), Ch. 17, The Brass Ring, IV

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American legal academic and writer 1954

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