“We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers - but never blame yourself. It's never your fault. But it's always your fault, because if you wanted to change you're the one who has got to change.”
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film, stage, and television actress 1907–2003Related quotes

Interview with Judy McGuire for Punk Magazine in 2001. McGuire, Judy, Joe Strummer Interview, 2001, Punk Magazine http://www.punkmagazine.com/stuff/morestuff/joe_strummer.html,

“If you're born poor it's not your fault, but if you die poor it's your fault.”
Quoted in various publications, without any further sourcing. The quote is dubious in view of the Gates Foundation's public mission, "to lift people out of hunger and extreme poverty." Gates was born to an affluent family.
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Majlisi, Bihārul Anwār, vol.78, p. 128
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Part VI: Welcome to the Dollhouse, page 239.
Going Postal: Rage, Murder, and Rebellion, From Reagan's Workplaces to Clinton's Columbine and Beyond (2005)
Context: Cruel and callous when on top, afraid and smiling all the way to the grave when not- that pretty much sums up the post-Reagan zeitgeist. And if you're not just as cheerful as the rest, "you've got some personal problems." You're a weirdo if you complain. It's your own fault if you're traumatized by a massacre. It's your own fault if you're poor. It's your own fault if you get downsized, overworked, bullied, and fail. Get over it.

“Your life is the fruit of your own doing. You have no one to blame but yourself. ”

“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.”