
“If you beat your head against the wall, it is your head that breaks and not the wall.”
Freedom (1908)
Source: Oeuvres complètes en seize volumes
“If you beat your head against the wall, it is your head that breaks and not the wall.”
The Modern Prince and other Writings, quoting a letter to his sister
"Rat Song" http://www.poetryfoundation.org/archive/poem.html?id=21984 (1974)
Selected Poems 1965-1975 (1976)
Variant: when you [lose someone], it feels like the hole in your gum when a tooth falls out. You can chew, you can eat, you have plenty of other teeth, but your tongue keeps going back to that empty place, where all nerves are still a little raw
Source: House Rules