André Maurois cytaty

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„Gdzie jest człowiek, który myśli to, co myśli?”

„Kobiety niczego by nie żądały, gdyby kochano je tak, jak pragną.”

„I kokietka może być zdolna do prawdziwej namiętności. Tylko, że nie w stosunku do tego samego mężczyzny, w tym rzecz.”

„Niesłusznie się mówi, że miłość jest ślepa – prawdą jest, że ma braki lub słabości, które widzi doskonale, miłość jest obojętna, jeśli sądzi, że znajduje w danej istocie to, co jest dla miłości najważniejsze, a co nieraz nie daje się określić.”

„Zwierzenia są jak kobiety: te, których mocno pragniemy uciekają od nas; te, których się obawiamy, narzucają się nam.”

„Podejrzenia założone w umyśle wybuchają jak miny łańcuchowe i niszczą miłość eksplozjami następującymi jedna po drugiej.”

„Nie piękno scenerii tworzy miłość, lecz miłość upiększa pejzaże i miasta.”

„Miłość rozbija okowy samotności.”

„Nawet odwzajemniona miłość jest straszliwa.”

„Miłość pomyślna, czyli taka, gdzie wszystko idzie możliwie, to rzecz trudna, ale miłość gdzie się nie wiedzie – to piekło.”

„Mężczyźni wyginęli. Od biedy można jeszcze znaleźć męża, ale mężczyzna mający czas dla kobiety i pragnący z nią rozmawiać – przestał istnieć.”

„Mężczyźni nie patrzą na suknie. Nie kocha się kobiety dla tego, co ma na sobie.”

„Kobiety lubią, by wiedziały, że są kochane.”

„Mężczyzna ambitny chce błyszczeć poprzez swe dzieła lub co najmniej w związku ze swymi dziełami. Kobieta szuka blasku, który mogłaby odbijać.”

„Nie kocha się kobiety za to, co ona mówi, lecz lubi się to, co ona mówi, ponieważ się ją kocha.”

„Handel jest złym doradcą dyplomatycznym.”

„Prześladowanie podsyca wiarę; tolerancja usypia ją.”

„Pretekst nigdy nie musi być prawdopodobny. Inaczej byłby racją.”

„Artysta podoba się publiczności zarówno dzięki swym dziełom, jak dzięki buntowi przeciw konwenansom.”

„Szczęśliwe małżeństwo – to długa rozmowa, która wciąż wydaje się za krótka.”

„Trup zgadza się być tym, czym jest. Ale tylko trup.”

„Rocznice były zawsze terenem bardzo podatnym do rozpalania namiętności.”

„Należy zawsze ukrywać to, co się czuje, by zachować to, co się kocha.”

„Zapewne życie jest krótkie, ale w stosunku do czego?”

„Z gustami literackimi jest po trosze jak z miłością: zdumiewa nas, co też to inni wybierają.”

„Człowieka zawsze kusi, by rozczulać się nad sobą i odmalowywać siebie takim, jakim by się chciało być.”

„Szczęśliwe małżeństwo to gmach, który odbudowywać trzeba co dzień.”

„W literaturze, podobnie jak w miłości, zdumiewa nas, co wybierają inni.”

„Ludzkość była zawsze podzielona, mniej więcej równo, na optymistów i pesymistów.”

„Wielka miłość nie wystarcza, żeby przywiązać istotę, którą się kocha, jeśli się nie potrafi jednocześnie wypełnić całego życia tamtej bez ustanku odnawianym bogactwem.”

„Łatwiej jest głosić pokój niż go zachować.”

„Wszystko, co zgadza się z naszymi życzeniami, jest prawdą. Wszystko inne doprowadza nas do wściekłości.”

„Miłość łatwiej znosi nieobecność lub śmierć niż zwątpienie lub zdradę.”

„Każde wielkie przeobrażenie społeczne ma swych teoretyków, którzy wymyślają przyczyny stałe dla wyjaśnienia skutków przejściowych.”

„Kiedy się kocha kobietę wszystko, co łączy się z jej obrazem, miłość nasza stroi w zalety i cnoty urojone.”

„Małżeństwo bez konfliktów jest prawie tak samo nie do pomyślenia jak społeczeństwo bez kryzysów.”

„Władza absolutna wywołuje u człowieka rozpętanie najgorszych instynktów.”

„W miłości kto nie pożera, sam jest pożerany, a jednak poddać się, szukać własnego szczęścia w szczęściu kogoś drugiego – to może być wyzwoleniem.”

„Jest coś jeszcze obrzydliwszego niż przekupny sędzia – sędzia żartowniś.”

„W niczym nie grzęźniesz łatwiej niż w powodzeniu.”

„Starzeć się to o tyle groźniejsze! Godzić się ze swoim losem, ze swym stanowiskiem, z tą psią budą wzniesioną nad jedynym przecie życiem… Kiedy jest się młodym, nie wie się, czym jest śmierć…”

„Młodość jest religią, z której prędzej czy później trzeba się w końcu nawrócić.”

„Droga Królewska wiodła już tylko ku szczątkom, jakie po sobie pozostawiają, niczym szkielety, wędrówki ludów i pochody wojsk.”

“I like the War. It is only War that gives us a normal existence. What do you do in peace-time? You stay at home; you don't know what to do with your time; you argue with your parents, and your wife - if you have one. Everyone thinks you are an insufferable egotist - and so you are. The War comes; you only go home every five or six months. You are a hero, and, what women appreciate much more, you are a change. You know stories that have never been published. You've seen strange men and terrible things. Your father, instead of telling his friends that you are embittering the end of his life, introduces you to them as an oracle. These old men consult you on foreign politics. I you are married, your wife is prettier than ever; if you are not, all the girls lay siege to you.”

“Tell only what is necessary to the person one must tell, and only when it must be told.”

“There is no happiness without forgetfulness. I have never known a real man of action to be unhappy during action. How could he be? Like a child at play, he stops thinking of himself.”

“…It's much better to run the risk of a few kisses before marriage, for they at least leave some memories.”

“The really great novel tends to be the exact negative of its author's life. "The characters crowd onto the page", writes Mauriac, "there to accomplish all those things which the personal destiny of the author has kept at bay.”

“The man who truly loves his work returns to it after the briefest rest with a curious kind of voluptuousness. When he is completely absorbed in his job, the end of work seems like the end of life.”

“Nothing is so discouraging to subordinates as a chief who hesitates. "Firmness," said Napoleon, "prevails in all things."”

“Medicine is a very old joke, but it still goes on.”

“Novelty, the most potent of all attractions, is also the most perishable.”

“In restaurants, the duration of silence between couples is too often proportionate to the length of their life together.”

“Telephones are like women. No one really knows anything about them. One fine day, something goes wrong; you try to find out why, no good, you swear, you shake them up a bit and all is well.”

“Old age is far more than white hair, wrinkles, the feeling that it is too late and the game finished, that the stage belongs to the rising generations. The true evil is not the weakening of the body, but the indifference of the soul. Upon crossing the shadow line, it is more the desire to act than the power to do so that is lost. Is it possible, after fifty years of experiences and disappointments, to retain the ardent curiosity of youth, the desire to know and understand, the power to love wholeheartedly, the certainty that beauty, intelligence, and kindness unite naturally, and to preserve faith in the efficacy of reason? Beyond the shadow line lies the realm of even, tempered light where the eyes, not being dazzled any more by the blinding sun of desire, can see things and people as they are. How is it possible to believe in the moral perfection of pretty women if you have loved one of them? How is it possible to believe in progress when you have discovered throughout a long and difficult life that no violent change can triumph over human nature and that it is only the most ancient customs and ceremonies that can provide people with the flimsy shelter of civilization? "What's the use?" says the old man to himself. This is perhaps the most dangerous phrase he can utter, for after having said: "What's the use of struggling?" he will say one day: "What's the use of going out?" then: "What's the use of leaving my room?" then: "What's the use of leaving my bed?" and at last comes "What's the use of living?"”

“A man who works under orders with other men must be without vanity. If he has too strong a will of his own and if his ideas are in conflict with those of his chief, the execution of orders will always be uncertain because of his efforts to interpret them in his own way. Faith in the chief must keep the gang together. Obviously deference must not turn into servility. A chief of staff or a departmental head should be able, if it seems to him (rightly or wrongly) that his superior is making a serious mistake, to tell him so courageously. But this sort of collaboration is really effective only if such frankness has true admiration and devotion behind it. If the lieutenant does not admit that his chief is more experienced and has better judgment than he himself, he will serve him badly. Criticism of the chief by a subordinate must be accidental and not habitual. What must an assistant do if he is sure he is right and if his chief refuses to accept his criticisms? He must obey the order after offering his objections. No collective work is possible without discipline. If the matter is so serious that it can have a permanent effect upon the future of a country, an army, or a commercial enterprise, the critic may hand in his resignation. But this must be done only as a last resort; as long as a man thinks he can be useful he must remain at his post.”

“"Nothing," wrote General de Gaulle, "strengthens authority so much as silence." Speech dilutes thought; it allows one's courage to leak away - in short, it dissipates the concentration that is required.”

“He who has not spent hours, days, or years with someone he loves cannot know what happiness is, for he is unable to imagine a protracted miracle like this - one which makes out of ordinary sights and events the most enchanted existence.”

“It only requires a glance at the advertisements in American magazines to understand how strong and how continuous is woman's preoccupation with her conquest of man.”

“It is not events and the things one sees and enjoys that produce happiness, but a state of mind which can endow events with its own quality, and we must hope for the duration of this state rather than the recurrence of pleasurable events. Is this state actually an interior one, and can we recognize it otherwise than the by the changes it produces in all exterior things? If we exclude sensation and memory from our thoughts, there is nothing left but a wordless emptiness. Where can pure ecstasy and pure happiness be found? As certain phosphorescent fish see the deep water, the seaweed, and the other creatures of the sea light up at their approach but never perceive the movable source of this illumination because it is in themselves, so the happy man, though he is aware of his effect upon others, has difficulty in perceiving his happiness and even greater difficulty in predicting it.”

“A little unsure of himself in her presence, he always addressed her in questions, a habit common to parents, sovereigns, generals, and teachers.”

“To amuse is not to teach. The object of teaching is to erect a framework of knowledge in a child's mind and gradually to bring the child as near as may be to the average level of intelligence. Later in life the facts taught by experience and new discoveries will add themselves to this framework. It is wrong to attempt to upset this natural order and to appeal to a child's mind by diverting it with the spectacle of modern life. Teaching by means of pictures, radio, and the cinema is in itself ineffective; these methods must not be used unless they involve (and this is possible) some effort or special enthusiasm. That which is learned without difficulty is soon forgotten, and for the same reason, oral instruction which does not require the pupil's personal participation is almost always rather useless. Eloquence slides in and out of young minds. To listen is not to work.”

“All primitive people thought that a lunatic was possessed by a spirit. When his incoherent words more or less accord with the moral prejudices of the time, the spirit is a good one, and the man i s a saint. In the opposite case, the spirit is evil and the man must be suppressed. It is just according to the time and place and the doctors, whether a prophetess would be worshipped as a priestess or ducked as a witch. Innumerable violent lunatics have escaped the cells, thanks to the War, and their very violence has made heroes of them. And in every Parliament there are at least five or six undisputed idiots who got elected for their madness through the admiration of their constituents.”

“Disinterestedness is a necessary attribute to real friendship and it is the duty of one friend to guess another's problems and render assistance before it is asked. If our friends have needs that we can satisfy, we should relieve them of the necessity of seeking our help. Apart from the satisfaction usually produced by an action, this permanent ability to give pleasure is perhaps the only advantage of wealth and power.”

“Of women he [Voltaire] has no very high opinion. To judge from his treatment of them, their minds are exclusively occupied by the prospect of making love to handsome young men with good figures, though, being both venal and timid, they are prepared to hire their bodies to old inquisitors or soldiers if, by so doing, they can save their own lives or amass riches. They are inconstant, and will gladly cut off the nose of a husband fondly mourned in order to cure a new lover.”

“Why, when I have won her, do I continue to woo her? Because, though she belongs to me, she is not and never will be mine.”

“Everything that tends to make it difficult to distinguish youth from age is an act of civilization. The best-mannered age in history invented the wig - a homage rendered by hair to baldness. The effect of powder and rouge is to make young women like their grandmothers, and invalids like healthy people. Clever dressmaking establishments and beauty shops create fashions which make it possible for elderly women to keep hoping. After a certain age, the art of dressing consists of hiding one's shortcomings, and this is another form of politeness. The veil is a marvelous invention for confusing the image and giving its wearers the semblance of beauty. All adornments are veils: they conceal the ravages of time as well as may be.”

“There are more love marriages in the United States than in any other country, but Americans are also given to quick and frequent divorces.”

“Friendship is the positive and unalterable choice of a person whom we have singled out for qualities that we most admire.”

“The desire for security, very marked in women, draws the weaker among them to men who, by their strength or ability, seem to offer protection and support. In time of war they count a warrior's scalps; in time of peace they hunt for genius or wealth. To the man in love the giving of gifts is a way of asserting his power. The penguin and the banker offer pebbles of varying brilliance to their respective loved ones. The finch presents twigs and leaves to its mate as the young man presents woolen threads in the form of carpets and curtains to his fiancee. The swallow and the woman begin to thing of the nest the moment they have chosen their males.”

“To disgust men with their work is a serious blunder on the part of human society; what could be more natural than their liking for what they do? Work keeps off boredom, vice, and poverty. It is the remedy for all imagined evils. "The souls' joy lies in doing," said Shelly. Active work saves man from himself; indolence make shim a prey to useless regrets, dangerous reveries, enviousness, and hate. Also the first rule of the art of governing is, at all costs, to keep a nation at work. A bored nation is impossible to govern, but a nation occupied by work which it believes to be useful and accomplishes on its own initiative is already a happy one.”

“A great statesman, like a good housekeeper, knows that cleaning has to be done every morning.”