“When we love someone our love becomes demonstrable or real only through our exertion - through the fact that for that someone (or for ourself) we take an extra step or walk an extra mile. Love is not effortless. To the contrary, love is effortful.”

— M. Scott Peck

Source: The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values, and Spiritual Growth

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American psychiatrist 1936–2005

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