“We never love someone. We just love the idea we have of someone. It's a concept of ours - summing up, ourselves - that we love.”

— Fernando Pessoa, book The Book of Disquiet

Ibid., p. 125
Original: Nunca amamos niguém. Amamos, tão-somente, a ideia que fazemos de alguém. É a um conceito nosso — em suma, é a nós mesmos — que amamos.
Source: The Book of Disquiet

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