“Contrary to what we may have been taught to think, unnecessary and unchosen suffering wounds us but need not scar us for life. It does mark us. What we allow the mark of our suffering to become is in our own hands.”

—  Bell Hooks , book All About Love: New Visions

Source: All About Love: New Visions

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American author, feminist, and social activist 1952

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