“The marriage partner is not really the problem. No other person can ultimately make you happy. You must learn how to be happy within yourself.”

“A lot of people, they think, ‘Oh, I’m only going to be happy when I find a special person who is going to make me happy.’ No. In life, you have to be happy with yourself first, number one. When you’re happy with yourself, you have to find another person who is happy with herself so you can share your happiness.”

“What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are but how you deal with incompatibility.”

“The therapists told you that you needed to find happiness within yourself before you got it from another person.”

“I've found that there is always some beauty left — in nature, sunshine, freedom, in yourself; these can all help you. Look at these things, then you find yourself again, and God, and then you regain your balance. A person who's happy will make others happy; a person who has courage and faith will never die in misery!”

“You can measure the happiness of a marriage by the number of scars that each partner carries on their tongues, earned from years of biting back angry words.”

“By accepting yourself and being fully what you are, your presence can make others happy.”

“One of the best ways to make yourself happy is to make other people happy. One of the best ways to make other people happy is to be happy yourself.”

“In marriage, until you can truly trust your life partner completely, you will always be filled with suspicion, jealousy and doubt. You will not truly feel the meaning of happiness in married life.”

“It is not the smallest use to try to make people good, unless you try at the same time — and they feel that you are trying — to make them happy. And you rarely can make another happy, unless you are happy yourself.”