“Infantile love follows the principle: "I love because I am loved."
Mature love follows the principle: "I am loved because I love."
Immature love says: "I love you because I need you."
Mature love says: "I need you because I love you.”

— Erich Fromm , book The Art of Loving

Source: The Art of Loving

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German social psychologist and psychoanalyst 1900–1980

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