Warren Farrell: Quotes about love

“[T]he men who are successful have become the most dependent on success to attract love. When this man loses his success, he often fears he will lose love.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 172.

Love , Men , Fear , Success

“The teenage female has less demand to perform and more resources to attract love. Her body and mind are more genetic gifts.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 166.

Love

“If my parents had made love a tenth of a second earlier or later, I wouldn’t exist. What an enormous miracle, just being given life.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Interview by Jonathan Robinson (1994), p. 163.

Love , Life , Parent

“Is loving men contradictory to feminism? Hardly. Every true feminist, I believe, is deepened and matured by being also a masculinist--a person who understands the male search for equality and approval as the male experiences it. As is every masculinist deepened by being a feminist (a person who understands the female search for equality and approval as the female experiences it.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 368.

Love , Men , Search , Understanding

“Just as women needed the help of the law to enter the workplace in the 20th century, men will need the help of the law to love their children in the 21st century.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 122.

Love , Women , Men , Children

“On oilrigs men who only work an 8-hour day are contemptuously called nine-to-fivers. In stark contrast, women are more likely not to take risks, even when the risks are minimal. What's the message to our sons? Our praise of our sons when they risk physical danger teaches them that a willingness to be physically abused creates love. Abuse-as-love? Yes.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 39.

Love , Women , Men

“The challenge is shifting our appreciation: being willing to give up some of dad’s money for more of dad’s love. And, in the process, altering the psyche that makes him lovable.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 238.

Love , Money

“Women's liberation and the male midlife crisis were the same search--for personal fulfillment, common values, mutual respect, love. But while women's liberation was thought of as promoting identity, the male midlife crisis was thought of as an identity crisis.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part 1: The Myth of Male Power, p. 44.

Love , Women , Search , Personality

“Throughout history, men learned that survival, respect and women’s love were all achieved by making a killing –whether killing animals, killing enemies, or making a killing on Wall Street. Women received the money that men produced by loving. Men came to feel themselves as unlovable without the money, property or the heroism it took to make them equal to a woman’s love. Women came to associate men spending money on them as a statement of how much they were valued—even loved-- by the man. Her ability to love became her source of security: a diamond is a girl’s best friend. Essentially this dynamic is true in almost all societies and all classes throughout history.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 135.

Love , Women , Men , Money

“No legend told its children of beautiful princesses falling in love with conscientious objectors.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Love , Children , Beauty , Princess

“If there is one quality that I find is more essential to a successful and happy life than any other, it is empathy. It is at the core of family stability and love. I’ve never had a couple come to me and say, “I want a divorce; my partner understands me.””

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 30.

Love , Life , Family , Understanding

“The less our sons our trusted, the less women are able to really love them, and the more women feel entitled to use them as wallets.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 98.

Love , Women , Feeling

“Our love for children is so immediate in part because we feel their powerlessness immediately; conversely, part of the way we deny our love for men is by denying men’s powerlessness. Too often we have confused love for men with respect for them, especially for their power to take care of us---which is really just love for ourselves.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 360.

Love , Men , Children , Way

“From the male perspective, when commitment is associated with diamonds and mortgages, promises of love can feel like promises of payment.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 103.

Love , Feeling

“Men’s immediate path from the Insanity Track to the Sanity Track is in demanding that both sexes have the freedom to strike a balance between homeplace and workplace. Men must expect their wives to financially support them to be fathers as much as they now financially support their wives to be mothers. Women must have our approval to marry the warrior of love rather than the warrior of money.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 212.

Love , Women , Men , Money

“Look under the “Love and Friendship” section and see dozens of cards designed for women to send to women, most bashing men, and virtually none saying anything loving about men.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Love , Women , Men , Friendship

“Life After Hate groups have successfully reversed the hatred of thousands and replaced it with empathy, love, and self-forgiveness. If the haters can learn empathy, maybe we can learn empathy toward the haters. When our only response to haters is to hate, we increase our brain’s training to hate and decrease its training to empathize. We become a bit of the enemy we hate.”

Warren Farrell

Source: The Boy Crisis (2018), pp. 32.

Love , Life , Hate , Forgiveness

“Industrialization created the “Father’s Catch-22”: a dad loving his children by being away from the love of his children.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 88.

Love , Children

“It never occurs to most of us at a moment of disagreement with our partner to take the time to appreciate our partner’s positive character strengths as reflected in a stance we disagree with. When we do that, it allows our partner to know that no matter which decision she or he makes, our trust in their underlying character is never in question. It turns every disagreement into a potential gift of love.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000), p. 33.

Love , Question , Decision , Time

“In brief, our genetic heritage is at odds with our genetic future. For the first time in human history, the qualities it takes to survive as a species are compatible with the qualities it takes to love.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part 1: The Myth of Male Power, p. 65.

Love , History , Time , Future