Warren Farrell: Quotes about love (page 2)

“What makes a teenage boy’s anxiety so overwhelming is that a teenage boy’s socialization is the demand to perform without the resources to perform. As a result, not only are his risks many, but his failures many. And so apparent… Second, the biggest winners—the football players—are receiving love via self-abuse. For some boys, receiving love via self-abuse creates anxiety. But losing love creates even more anxiety.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 167.

Love , Boy , Failure , Football

“When I feel very loved, when I nurture and support people, my experience is deepened. I feel connected to a larger purpose and meaning.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Interview by Jonathan Robinson (1994), p. 71.

Love , People , Feeling , Support

“[M]en who work to make it as computer whizzes or owners of black Porsches[…] are confused when they're told they are not vulnerable enough. We can't fall in love with men who appear invulnerable and expect vulnerability. Why did he want a black Porsche? Because he never saw an ugly woman get out of one.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 106.

Love , Men , Appearance

“Women attempt suicide more often because they want to become the priority of those they love rather than always prioritizing them.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 171.

Love , Women , Suicide

“Alan Alda is loved not because he's sensitive, but because he's successful and sensitive.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 134.

Love , Success

“Single women often fear that the men they are going out with wouldn't be comfortable with less career and more child. Perhaps. If a woman selects a man with a lot of career ambition, she'll get what she selected. The solution? Choose among men who would love to be married to a career woman who valued his being home full-time with the children for a few years. Can't find these men? State your interest on your Match. com profile--the Internet's the best net to catch the right fish. You'll be surprised.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 83-84.

Love , Women , Men , Children

“A father’s traditional role prepared him to love his family by being away from the love of his family.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Love , Family

“The deeper purpose of a more positive attitude toward men is a better life for the children who are parented by the men who are their dads and stepdads; less shame for our sons who will become men; and, for our daughters, a deeper understanding of men's desire to please that leaves them feeling their willingness to please is not unrequited but returned--allowing our daughters to feel less lonely and more loved. If we earn more and love less, we pay for a home in which we do not live.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 123.

Love , Life , Men , Children

“A man cannot tell whether a woman is in love with him or his security blanket until she is financially and psychologically independent enough to leave. Until a woman has learned how to leave, even she cannot be sure she has learned to love.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 182.

Love , Learning

“A mother’s traditional role prepared her to love her family by being with the family she loved.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Love , Family

“So while in men’s magazines success is a power tool to get sex and love, and therefore the look of success is crucial, in women’s magazines love and sex are power tools to get success—and therefore both the look of love and the sexual tease/promise are crucial.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 78-79.

Love , Women , Men , Sex

“In a Stage I survival-focused world, a father needed to be a problem-solver. He needed to “tough it out” by denying feelings. He needed to persuade, argue, debate, set rules, distinguish right from wrong without flexibility. These skills made him “eligible,” they brought him a wife and children. In every sense of the word, these skills were his relationship language. Problem is, “toughing it out” fed his loved ones’ mouths, but didn’t nurture his loved ones’ souls.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 116.

Love , Children , World , Feeling

“While the label “date rape” has helped women articulate the most dramatic aspect of dating from women’s perspective, men have no labels to help them articulate the most traumatic aspects of dating from their perspective. Now, of course, the most traumatic aspect is the possibility of being accused of date rape by a woman to whom he thought he was making love. If men did label the worst aspects of the traditional male role, though, they might label them “date robbery,” “date rejection,” “date responsibility,” “date fraud,” and “date lying.””

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 313.

Love , Women , Men , Making love

“Perhaps the biggest appreciation adjustment we need is toward the millions of men and women we call stepparents. We have taken for granted especially the stepparents who are raising no children of their own, and receiving no income from a significant other, but who have nevertheless chosen to invest love, time and money in children.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 246.

Love , Women , Men , Money

“Neither men nor women are exempt from killing loved ones. The difference is in what happens to them when they do. Twelve distinct female-only defenses allow a woman who commits a premeditated murder to have the charges dropped or significantly reduced. No man has successfully used any of these defenses in similar circumstances.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 254.

Love , Women , Men

“Men’s pay paid women to love and nurture, to connect and feel. To be nurturer-connectors. In contrast, men received their pay by being some form of killer-protector. By becoming a human doing (a captain or a coal miner), not a human being”

Warren Farrell

a person who feels happy or sad
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Love , Women , Men , Sadness

“When we train men for war, we lose some part of every man we train -- even if we win the war. When we train men to be better nurturers, even men who fail the course will have won. And so will every child they ever meet. Training men to love is a nation’s best investment.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 112.

Love , Men , War , Parting

“For thousands of years, most marriages were in Stage I--survival-focused. After World War II, marriages increasingly flirted with Stage II--a self-fulfillment focus… Love's definition is in a transition.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part 1: The Myth of Male Power, p. 42.

Love , Marriage , War , World

“Nothing threatens a father’s involvement in the family more than his obligation to be the family’s “financial womb,” creating “The Father’s ‘Catch-22’”: loving the family by being away from the family. It is the irony of traditional fatherhood: being a father by not being a father.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 90.

Love , Family

“Shifting our attitudes about the future of fathers requires shifting our attitudes about the way our fathers loved. Recognizing that the rigid roles of the past were not designed by men to serve only men is not unrelated to shifting our attitudes toward dad.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 239.

Love , Men , Way , Past