Teal Swan: Relationship

“If you are not truthful and if you are not in reality about yourself and if you are not in reality about the truth of other people, you have no chance at being happy in any of your relationships.”

“Every relationship is transactional, whether it is a business relationship, a romantic relationship, a political relationship, a friendship, or a familial relationship.”

“The ultimate truth in this universe is the truth of oneness. Therefore each being in existence is in fact an extension of what many call "God". We are indivisible from it. And as such, having good relationships with people is the same as having a good relationship with God.”

“You can't have a happy life and an unhappy relationship - it's a contradiction.”

“The most difficult thing to accept is that we are usually the source of our suffering. For example, if we believe that nothing works out for us, we never pour ourselves into our goals and so they never come to fruition. If we have decided that people always leave, we never fully commit to them and so the relationship we have with them never becomes secure.”

“There is a reason why I focus more in my carreer on practical things like relationships and what to do with emotions - it's because all of this interdimensional information that I could have a conversation about with you, DOES NOTHING FOR YOUR DAILY LIFE. Nothing. Really, it doesn't matter how many extraterrestrials there are in the universe and what they are doing in your day to day life… What matter's is whether you can have a relationship because life literally is relationships. Even if you want to have a conversation about the universe - it's about your relationship to the universe.”

“Regardless of whether it is a friendship or a romantic relationship, emotions and feelings are the heart of every healthy and meaningful relationship. Without a healthy emotional life, a relationship is not a relationship, it's a social arrangement.”

“In relationships we tend to get lazy and think we know each other after months or years. This is a complete illusion, especially given that EMOTIONS and EXPERIENCES and THOUGHTS belonging to a person fluctuate every single day.”

“In relationships, we deeply crave to be with someone who understands how we feel, but we don't even take the time to understand how we feel.”

“Start to see the things people say and do to you as less about you and more of a perfect reflection of the tragic relationship that they have with themselves.”

“If we associate love with losing ourselves, in relationships we will become avoidant and push our partners away.”

“You deserve a relationship where your feelings matter. And the fastest way to get to that relationship is to decide that your emotions, including your positive emotions, matter to you. And your positive emotions should matter to you enough that you are willing to follow them in whatever direction they wish to take you.”

“You deserve a relationship where your feelings matter. And the fastest way to get to that kind of relationship is to decide that your emotions matter to YOU. If you stop abandoning yourself when you are experiencing negative emotions, you will come to trust that you will always be there for yourself. You will feel a deep sense of inner peace arise within you.”

“School is a place that adds to emotional pain for most children alive today. It is even more so the case for the two most isolated kids in school: 1. The social outcasts who are isolated in every way. 2. The social actors who are surrounded by other kids, but no one sees them because they are in a relationship not with them, but with the role they play.”

“When we have commited to a relationship, we have commited to communication.”

“Incompatibility in a relationship is not about being different. Many differences are workable and can be easily accommodated in a relationship. In fact, many differences make people in a relationship even more compatible. Incompatibility is the condition of two things being different in a way that is specifically uncomplimentary to the degree that the specific difference makes them incapable of coexisting harmoniously.”

“Most people just don’t want to accept the reality of incompatibility. But refusing to accept incompatibility will lead you straight down the road to relationship hell.”

“The happiest relationships are relationships where people are compatible in terms of the type of support they need and the type of support the other person intrinsically loves to give.”

“The desire to be loved exactly as we are can get in the way of self-development, personal expansion and prevent us from making necessary changes that would make our relationships and life better.”