Teal Swan: Quotes about people

“What I know is that suffering creates suffering and the ONLY way to change that in the world is to become JOY and begin infecting other people with it. If you become joy, you will not make other people unhappy and the cycle of suffering… ends. Why do I care? Because I am you. Your suffering is the world's suffering. You can not suffer and not have it affect EVERYTHING in existence.”

“People, who are afraid of intimacy and connection (and thus vulnerability) tend to cope with those feelings by becoming an island unto themselves. They become emotionally unavailable and disconnect from the other person as a defence. To withdraw in a relationship is to commit emotional divorce. And the #1 symptom of withdrawal is lack of communication.”

“People often refuse to see, accept and tell the truth. Unfortunately, because of this, they and everyone around them are prevented from growth.”

“If you are not truthful and if you are not in reality about yourself and if you are not in reality about the truth of other people, you have no chance at being happy in any of your relationships.”

“The problem isn't hierarchy, authority or superiority. The problem is that people in positions of authority or superiority did not take you as a part of themselves and thus did not consider you and thus did not act in alignment with your best interests.”

“The ultimate truth in this universe is the truth of oneness. Therefore each being in existence is in fact an extension of what many call "God". We are indivisible from it. And as such, having good relationships with people is the same as having a good relationship with God.”

“In the information age, attention spans have decreased exponentially. People want the incredibly complex practice and nature of awareness compressed into a two-minute sound bite. This is not possible. It is not real learning and it is not real personal transformation. It is the momentary drug-like hit of entertainment and inspiration.”

“What most people do not know is that underlying every physical ailment is an underlying problem in consciousness. Another way of saying this is that there is a mental and emotional root to all physical ailments.”

“What I have found to be unanimous about people is that they guard and act like they don’t want you to touch the places inside them that they are the most desperate for you to touch.”

“The most difficult thing to accept is that we are usually the source of our suffering. For example, if we believe that nothing works out for us, we never pour ourselves into our goals and so they never come to fruition. If we have decided that people always leave, we never fully commit to them and so the relationship we have with them never becomes secure.”

“We like to tell the lie that when we love someone else, we are doing it for them. We aren't. Love is selfish. It is the most selfish act in the world. It is selfish because it is the most beneficial thing in the world to YOU. Because of this, it should not wait. Do not wait for someone to give you love, for you to love them. Be selfish and love people without reservation. Love makes you whole. Love fulfills you. Love will strike fear from the record of your soul. What a gift to allow yourself to become whole, fulfilled and fearless.”

“With a zero sum game, it almost always ends up being a question of which came first, the chicken or the egg. Both people involved will perceive the other to have started it.”

“The biggest gaslight of all is when people say "I love you and I want you" while trying to change who you are into what they want you to be.”

“No matter what you have been told by people who make your needs wrong because they don’t want to meet those needs, you cannot un-need what you need.”

“The healing of the collective human consciousness is dependent upon us creating a society where we can make room for pain. You currently live in a world that has made only positive things, like positive emotions and success and being healed, acceptable. This is a world that sees anything less than this as a failure. This prevents people from healing. It prevents people from admitting to where they are and taking the sometimes counterintuitive steps they need to take in order to heal. It is ok to not be ok.”

“We must choose to be dependent. There is nothing powerless about the choice to be dependent and it is safe assuming that both people realize that their wellbeing is inseparable from the other person. This is the foundation of interdependence.”

“Happy people do not cause harm to others. If everyone who was born upon this earth focused on their own alignment and their own joy so much that they never became separated from it, there would be no war.”

“If we as people allow ourselves to be caught up in either PRIDE or SHAME, we severely limit the scope of what we are capable of doing and what we are capable of of becoming in this life.”

“If you take responsibility for telling people the truth at the same time as taking responsibility for making people feel good, you will often find yourself stuck in a serious contradiction.”