
“Now it is no longer a matter of deciding what to do, but of deciding how to decide.”
Source: Love and Will (1969), Ch. 1 : Introduction : Our Schizoid World, p. 15
Love and Will is a book by American existential psychologist Rollo May, in which he articulates the principle that an awareness of death is essential to life, rather than being opposed to life.The book explores how the modern loss of older values, whose structures and stories provided society with explanations of the mysteries of life, forces contemporary humanity to choose between finding meaning within themselves or deciding that neither oneself, nor life, has meaning.
“Now it is no longer a matter of deciding what to do, but of deciding how to decide.”
Source: Love and Will (1969), Ch. 1 : Introduction : Our Schizoid World, p. 15
Source: Love and Will (1969), p. 100
Context: When we "fall" in love, as the expressive verb puts it, the world shakes and changes around us, not only in the way it looks but in our whole experience of what we are doing in the world. Generally, the shaking is consciously felt in its positive aspects … Love is the answer, we sing. … our Western culture seems to be engaged in a romantic — albeit desperate — conspiracy to enforce the illusion that that is all there is to eros.
“The daimonic can be either creative or destructive and is normally both.”
Source: Love and Will (1969), p. 123
Context: The daimonic is any natural function which has the power to take over the whole person. Sex and eros, anger and rage, and the craving for power are examples. The daimonic can be either creative or destructive and is normally both.
Source: Love and Will (1969), Ch. 1 : Introduction : Our Schizoid World, p. 32
Context: The constructive schizoid person stands against the spiritual emptiness of encroaching technology and does not let himself be emptied by it. He lives and works with the machine without becoming a machine. He finds it necessary to remain detached enough to get meaning from the experience, but in doing so, to protect his own inner life from impoverishment.
Source: Love and Will (1969), Ch. 3 : Eros in Conflict with Sex, p. 73
Context: Sex can be defined fairly adequately in physiological terms as consisting of the building up of bodily tensions and their release. Eros, in contrast, is the experiencing of the personal intentions and meaning of the act. Whereas sex is a rhythm of stimulus and response, eros is a state of being. The pleasure of sex is described by Freud and others as the reduction of tension; in eros, on the contrary, we wish not to be released from the excitement but rather to hang on to it, to bask in it, and even to increase it. The end toward which sex points is gratification and relaxation, whereas eros is a desiring, longing, a forever reaching out, seeking to expand.
Source: Love and Will (1969), Ch. 1 : Introduction : Our Schizoid World, p. 21
“Depression is the inability to construct a future.”
Source: Love and Will (1969), p. 243
Source: Love and Will (1969), Ch. 1 : Introduction : Our Schizoid World, p. 17
Source: Love and Will (1969), Ch. 1 : Introduction : Our Schizoid World, p. 15
“Hate is not the opposite of love; apathy is.”
Source: Love and Will (1969), Ch. 1 : Introduction : Our Schizoid World, p. 29
Source: Love and Will (1969), Ch. 1 : Introduction : Our Schizoid World, p. 32
Source: Love and Will (1969), Ch. 1 : Introduction : Our Schizoid World, p. 31
“Life comes from physical survival; but the good life comes from what we care about.”
Source: Love and Will (1969), p. 290
Source: Love and Will (1969), Ch. 1 : Introduction : Our Schizoid World, p. 20