“If you want to find out whether the person is there or the ideology is there, you listen to see if you're hearing anything that someone else with the same ideological mindset couldn't have told you.”

“You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time.”

“Isn't it better to be alone than pretend you're someone else? Be you. Find you. Be happy with that.”

“It's always good to squat over the mirror and take a good, hard look at your own ideology sometimes. 'Cause if you don't do the thinking someone else will do the thinking for you.”

“Above anything else, stay true to yourself. Whether that means for you that you like to have blue hair, or you don't like to drink, or you are attracted to the same sex, or you want to remove yourself from Facebook, or you've got 3 different kids from 3 different dads but you know you're a really good mom, or you cry for a week because your turtle died. Whatever your truth is, stay true to yourself. But be a good person while you're at it.”

“Just when you get really wound up, you turn a corner and you're somewhere else completely. You find an Arcadian glade - a glimpse of paradise in the middle of it all. And that's why you persevere. That's why you don't chuck yourself off a building or shoot yourself at the same time as someone else, like he [Carl] wanted us to.”

“You cannot observe people through an ideology. Your ideology observes for you.”

“Why would you want to be anything else if you're Mick Jagger?”

“A coach is someone who tells you what you don't want to hear, who has you see what you don't want to see, so you can be who you have always known you could be.”

“Why pretend to be something you're not? If you have to be someone, be someone no one else is.”