“What is greatly desired, but long deferred, gives little pleasure, when at length it is ours, for we have lived with it in imagination until we have grown weary of it, having ourselves, in the meanwhile, become other.”

— John Lancaster Spalding

Source: Aphorisms and Reflections (1901), pp. 180-181

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Catholic bishop 1840–1916

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