“Nothing is ever what you want it to be. The harder you grab for it, the more deeply it cuts. And it mocks you for being foolish enough to reach for it at all. You come to fear touching anything at all, because you know that if you do, it will become terrible.”

—  M. K. Hobson

Source: The Hidden Goddess (2011), Chapter 19, “The Ruined Woman” (p. 310)

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