“But many of us seek community solely to escape the fear of being alone. Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.”

—  Bell Hooks , book All About Love: New Visions

Source: All About Love: New Visions

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American author, feminist, and social activist 1952

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