“Don't Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.”

— Miguel Ángel Ruiz, book The Four Agreements

The Four Agreements (1997)

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Mexican writer and philosopher 1952

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