John Updike cytaty

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„Nikt nie może nigdzie dojść, jeśli skądś nie odszedł.”

„Sukces bywa również karany: trzeba spotykać się z ludźmi, których przedtem można było ignorować.”

„Ludzie mogą należeć do nas tylko we wspomnieniach.”

„Dzisiaj młodzi mają więcej problemów, niż mieliśmy my - mówi Jack (…) Nie chodzi tylko o AIDS i całą resztę. Istnieje pewien głód, nie wiem, absolutu, kiedy wszystko jest takie relatywne, a wszystkie siły ekonomiczne narzucają im szybki zarobek i kredyt na karcie (…) Kiedy rzeczywistość nie jest prosta, ludzie chcą powrotu do naiwnej prostoty, czerni i bieli, prawdy i fałszu. (…) Inaczej bycie człowiekiem byłoby zbyt trudne. W przeciwieństwie do innych zwierząt wiemy za dużo. One wiedzą tylko tyle, żeby wypełnić swoje zadanie i umrzeć. Jedzą, śpią, pieprzą się, rodzą młode i umierają. (…) Chcę tylko powiedzieć, że dzieciaki takie jak Ahmad muszą mieć coś, czego nie daje im już społeczeństwo. Społeczeństwo nie pozwala im już zachować niewinności. Ci szaleni Arabowie mają rację - hedonizm, nihilizm, to wszystko, co mamy do zaoferowania.(…) Młodzi muszą podejmować teraz więcej decyzji niż kiedyś, bo dorośli nie potrafią im podpowiedzieć, co mają robić. My sami nie wiemy, co robić, nie mamy gotowych odpowiedzi tak jak kiedyś; po prostu trwonimy czas, starając się za dużo nie myśleć. Nikt nie bierze na siebie odpowiedzialności, więc robią to dzieciaki, przynajmniej niektóre… to pragnienie, żeby zrobić coś dobrego, żeby być dobrym, żeby gdzieś się zapisać… do wojska, orkiestry dętej, gangu, chóru, samorządu szkolnego, nawet do harcerstwa. (…) Na korytarzach serce ci się kraje, jak widzisz te twarze, tak pełne nadziei, oni chcą być d o b r z y, chcą coś znaczyć. Oczekują czegoś od samych siebie. To jest Ameryka, wszyscy czegoś oczekujemy, nawet socjopaci mają całkiem dobrą opinię na swój temat. Wiesz, kim ostatecznie zostają ci, z którymi są najgorsze problemy wychowawcze? Gliniarzami albo nauczycielami w liceum. Chcą zadowolić społeczeństwo, chociaż się do tego nie przyznają. Chcą być czegoś warci, gdybyśmy tylko mogli im wskazać, co jest wartościowe.”

„Życie nie jest czymś, co można k o n t r o l o w a ć. Nie kontrolujemy oddechu, trawienia, bicia serca. Życie trzeba po prostu przeżyć. Trzeba pozwolić mu się t o c z y ć.”

„Nie wiesz jeszcze zbyt dużo o miłości. On jest moim facetem. Gdyby nie ja, co by miał? Byłby żałosny i może za bardzo go kocham i nie chcę, żeby się o tym przekonał. Dla czarnego faceta wychowanego w biednej rodzinie w New Prospect sprzedawanie swojej kobiety nie jest żadną hańbą, jest sposobem na udowodnienie męskości.”

“The world keeps ending but new people too dumb to know it keep showing up as if the fun's just started.”

“The artist brings something into the world that didn't exist before, and he does it without destroying something else.”

“You do things and do things and nobody really has a clue.”

“Looking foolish does the spirit good. The need not to look foolish is one of youth’s many burdens; as we get older we are exempted from more and more, and float upward in our heedlessness, singing Gratia Dei sum quod sum.”

“That's the trouble with caring about anybody, you begin to feel overprotective. Then you begin to feel crowded.”

“Writers may be disreputable, incorrigible, early to decay or late to bloom but they dare to go it alone.”

“Being able to write becomes a kind of shield, a way of hiding, a way of too instantly transforming pain into honey.”

“But it seems to me that once you begin a gesture it's fatal not to go through with it.”

“So much love, too much love, it is our madness, it is rotting us out, exploding us like dandelion polls.”

“A leader is one who, out of madness or goodness, volunteers to take upon himself the woe of the people. There are few men so foolish, hence the erratic quality of leadership in the world.”

“Children are not a zoo of entertainingly exotic creatures, but an array of mirrors in which the human predicament leaps out at us.”

“What is the past, after all, but a vast sheet of darkness in which a few moments, pricked apparently at random, shine?”

“There is this quality, in things, of the right way seeming wrong at first.”

“But it is just two lovers, holding hands and in a hurry to reach their car, their locked hands a starfish leaping through the dark.”

“It is not difficult to deceive the first time, for the deceived possesses no antibodies; unvaccinated by suspicion, she overlooks latenesses, accepts absurd excuses, permits the flimsiest patchings to repair great rents in the quotidian.”

“We are cruel enough without meaning to be.”

“Americans have been conditioned to respect newness, whatever it costs them.”

“Not only are selves conditional but they die. Each day, we wake slightly altered, and the person we were yesterday is dead. So why, one could say, be afraid of death, when death comes all the time?”

“The Founding Fathers in their wisdom decided that children were an unnatural strain on parents. So they provided jails called schools, equipped with tortures called an education. School is where you go between when your parents can’t take you and industry can’t take you.”

“If she’d been born at the right time they would have burned her over in Salem.”

“Suddenly summoned to witness something great and horrendous, we keep fighting not to reduce it to our own smallness.”

“… hate suits him better than forgiveness. Immersed in hate, he doesn't have to do anything; he can be paralyzed, and the rigidty of hatred makes a kind of shelter for him.”

“Museums and bookstores should feel, I think, like vacant lots - places where the demands on us are our own demands, where the spirit can find exercise in unsupervised play.”

“We were all brought up to want things and maybe the world isn't big enough for all that wanting. I don't know. I don't know anything”

“[At news that Nelson got himself a counsellor] Harry feels a jealous, resentful pang. His boy is being taken over. His fatherhood hasn't been good enough. They're calling in the professionals.”

“He had gone to church and brought back this little flame and had nowhere to put it on the dark damp walls of the apartment, so it had flickered and gone out. And he realised that he wouldn't always be able to produce this flame.”

“In asking forgiveness of women for our mythologizing of their bodies, for being unreal about them, we can only appeal to their own sexuality, which is different but not basically different, perhaps, from our own. For women, too, there seems to be that tangle of supplication and possessiveness, that descent toward infantile undifferentiation, that omnipotent helplessness, that merger with the cosmic mother-warmth, that flushed pulse- quickened leap into overestimation, projection, general mix-up.”

“For male and female alike, the bodies of the other sex are messages signaling what we must do — they are glowing signifiers of our own necessities.”

“[Nelson, about Pru] She had complained for years about living with his mother and Ronnie and about his dead-end job babysitting these pathetic dysfunctionals, boosting his own ego at their expense, caring more about them than he did about his own wife and children, but what it boiled down to in his baffled mind was something she once shouted, her green eyes bright as broken glass in her reddened face: My life with you is too small. Too small. As if being a greaseball lawyer's input organiser and easy lay was bigger. But the size of a life is how you feel about it.”