“It is wise to apply the oil of refined politeness to the mechanisms of friendship.”
Source: Le Pur et l'Impur (The Pure and the Impure) (1932), Ch. 9
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Part V, Chapter XIX, The Reservoir Plan and Tradition, p. 232
Storage and Stability (1937)

“The friendship of one wise man is better than the friendship of a host of fools.”
Source Book in Ancient Philosophy (1907), The Golden Sayings of Democritus

“We must ever remember we are refining oil for the poor man and he must have it cheap and good.”

Source: 1960s, The Gutenberg Galaxy (1962), p. 171

“An excuse is a polite rejection. Men are not afraid of 'ruining the friendship.”
Source: He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

We the People interview (1996)
Context: I do not believe that friendship today can flower out — can come out — of political life. I do believe that if there is something like a political life to be — to remain for us, in this world of technology — then it begins with friendship.
Therefore my task is to cultivate disciplined, self-denying, careful, tasteful friendships. Mutual friendships always. I-and-you and, I hope, a third one, out of which perhaps community can grow. Because perhaps here we can find what the good is.

W. E. Lamb, Super classical quantum mechanics: the best interpretation of non relativistic quantum mechanics, Am. J. Phys. 69, 413-422 (2001).
Source: "Influence, Power, Religion, and the Mechanisms of Social Control," 1999, p. 161 Lead sentence