“We cannot help but see the person in one way or other and place our constructions or interpretations on "his" behaviour, as soon as we are in a relationship with him.”

—  Ronald David Laing, book The Divided Self

The Divided Self (1960)

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Scottish psychiatrist and author 1927–1989

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