“Are you really gay?
Yes.
Do you think you were born gay or became gay?
Are you asking because you want to know if it's your fault?
I suppose.
To one degree or another, I'm sure it's your fault. Feel better now?”

—  A. M. Homes

Source: This Book Will Save Your Life (2006), P. 325.

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