“Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not.”

—  Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

Source: How to Win Friends and Influence People

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