“… no one can do a thing about feelings, they exist and there's no way to censor them. We can reproach ourselves for some action, for a remark, but not for a feeling, quite simply because we have no control at all over it.”

— Milan Kundera, book Identity

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Czech author of Czech and French literature 1929–2023

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