Merle Shain: Quotes about love

Merle Shain was Canadian writer. Explore interesting quotes on love.
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“It's impossible for men and women who love each other not to hurt each other now and then, but most women would settle happily for a man who tried not to cause the same hurt twice.”

Merle Shain

Some Men are More Perfect Than Others (1973)

Love , Women , Men , Hurt

“Loving someone means helping them to be more themselves, which can be different from being what you'd like them to be, although often they turn out the same.”

Merle Shain

Some Men are More Perfect Than Others (1973)

Love , Help

“We tend to think in terms of fixing blame, of establishing adultery and making clear who did what to whom, when what is most important is not what was done but that no one be hurt. It's not that we care that much if our mate rubs off a few cells of epidermis in friction with someone else, it's that we are all afraid if he does, he'll stop loving us. And men who've always had affairs, considering it good for their morale, find that they are fearful just like their wives when the shoe is on the other foot. Any new ethic, if it's to work, will have to find ways of reconciling growth with commitment, change with loyalty, and freedom with alienation, because a world in which new loyalties constantly replace old ones will make neurotics of us all.”

Merle Shain

Some Men are More Perfect Than Others (1973)

Love , Men , World , Fear

“Loving can cost a lot but not loving always costs more, and those who fear to love often find that want of love is an emptiness that robs the joy from life.”

Merle Shain

Some Men are More Perfect Than Others (1973)

Sad , Heartbreaking , Hurtful , Love

“I have been furious with men who have expected me to be faithful, and I have been even more furious with those who did not, and once I screamed at a man whom I loved more than I'd intended to, "If I'm faithful to you, what bloody business is it of yours?"”

Merle Shain

Some Men are More Perfect Than Others (1973)

Love , Men , Faith , Business

“But women often find their husbands don't love them for the things they value in themselves, and part of the charm of an affair is you can give what you want, and need only give if you choose.”

Merle Shain

Some Men are More Perfect Than Others (1973)

Love , Women , Parting

“People who are loving toward each other set up their marriages so that it is possible for both partners to get what they need from life and so that no one is expected to give up his needs to meet those of his spouse. And when their partner meets one of their needs they accept it as a gift, instead of viewing each unmet one as if it were a betrayal.”

Merle Shain

Some Men are More Perfect Than Others (1973)

Love , Life , Marriage , People

“I've learned not to ask for everything, just to make sure that I get what I must have. It doesn't matter who else gets what-- it only matters if you're deprived. Really splendid men understand that and find ways to manage their lives to they never give away anything that is their wife's. And if there are times when they need more than one woman in their life, they give back what they get to both. Being faithful means not costing people you love more than they can afford to pay. The best men are committed to their partners as much as to themselves.”

Merle Shain

Some Men are More Perfect Than Others (1973)

Love , Life , Men , People

“Marriages should be as diverse as the people in them are, which means that some will be one of a kind, and some totally different still. And those who don't want to love, honor and obey, should be able to promise each other anything they choose, without having to ask anyone what they think of that, particularly themselves.”

Merle Shain

Some Men are More Perfect Than Others (1973)

Love , Marriage , People , Thinking

“If I had to choose between having someone physically faithful to me or having him committed to my preservation, I would opt for the latter because there is no doubt in my mind when I see couples at parties selling each other out which is the worst offense. Physical fidelity is a lovely thing if someone feels that way about you willingly, but relatively meaningless of you exact it for a price. And while it is easy enough to be faithful for the first five or ten years, it is more difficult by twice each year after that, so women as well as men are finding it hard to do.”

Merle Shain

Some Men are More Perfect Than Others (1973)

Love , Women , Men , Faith

“I'm not sure there can be loving without commitment, although commitment takes all kinds and forms, and there can be commitment for the moment as well as commitment for all time. The kind that is essential for loving marriages-- and love affairs, as well-- is a commitment to preserving the essential quality of your partner's soul, adding to them rather than taking away.”

Merle Shain

Some Men are More Perfect Than Others (1973)

Love , Marriage , Soul , Time