“Unhappiness is our element. We come to believe we can't function without it.”
How to Save Your Own Life (1977)
Erica Jong is an American novelist, satirist, and poet, known particularly for her 1973 novel Fear of Flying. The book became famously controversial for its attitudes towards female sexuality and figured prominently in the development of second-wave feminism. According to The Washington Post, it has sold more than 20 million copies worldwide. Wikipedia

“Unhappiness is our element. We come to believe we can't function without it.”
How to Save Your Own Life (1977)
“Inevitably, I drank too much, talked too much, smiled too hard, swallowed back too much bile.”
How to Save Your Own Life (1977)
"Into the lion's den" in The Guardian (26 October 2000) http://www.guardian.co.uk/theguardian/2000/oct/26/features11.g2
“In loving life you love what can't survive…”
Becoming Light: Poems New and Selected (1991)
How to Save Your Own Life (1977)
“Having a baby with him meant marrying that face forever.”
How to Save Your Own Life (1977)
“What was the point of spending your life with someone you were always looking for ways to deceive?”
How to Save Your Own Life (1977)
Erica Jong book Fear of Flying
No one is attempting to cuckold a husband or humiliate a wife. No one is trying to prove anything or get anything out of anyone. The zipless fuck is the purest thing there is. And it is rarer than the unicorn. And I have never had one.
Fear of Flying (1973)
“My body was flesh, which was only one step removed from shit, from clay, from dust.”
How to Save Your Own Life (1977)