“Marriage is both the most public and the most secret of institutions, its miseries as irritatingly insistent as a hacking cough, its private malaise less easily diagnosed. And nothing is so destructive as unhappiness to social life. No one wants to sit in embarrassed silence while his host and hostess demonstrate their mutual incompatibility and dislike.”

— P. D. James

Publisher: Faber and Faber, 2017, p. 133
Sleep no more: Six Murderous Tales, published posthumously in 2017

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