“Any of us can be a better version of himself, but none of us can be someone else.”

—  Andrew Solomon

Source: Far from the Tree, Ch. 12 Father, p. 687.
Context: A wise psychiatrist once said to me, "People want to get better, but they don't want to change." But I would propose that it is only by allowing people born with horizontal identities not to change that one allows them to get better. Any of us can be a better version of himself, but none of us can be someone else.

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