“Our own vitality as well as that of others frightens us, if it still manages to surface, we respond with rage and turn against our own freedom. It is vitality itself that we are opposing.”

—  Arno Gruen

The Betrayal of the Self - The Fear of Autonomy in Men and Women (1986)

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