“Without the pain there'd be no learning
Without the hurting we'd never change.”
Song lyrics, The Red Shoes (1993)
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“Learning is not child's play; we cannot learn without pain.”

Reported in Josiah Hotchkiss Gilbert, Dictionary of Burning Words of Brilliant Writers (1895), p. 88.
“You cannot learn a new form of conduct without changing yourself.”
Language Education in a Knowledge Context (1980)
Context: It is precisely through one's learning about the total context in which the language of a subject is expressed that personality may be altered. If one learns how to speak history or mathematics or literary criticism, one becomes, by definition, a different person. The point to be stressed is that a subject is a situation in which and through which people conduct themselves, largely in language. You cannot learn a new form of conduct without changing yourself.

Source: Contributions to Analytical Psychology (1928), p. 193

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