“We are the offspring of approval-seekers. We want approval so badly that we vacillate between conforming to get it and standing out (being outstanding) to get it.”

Source: Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000), p. 24.

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author, spokesperson, expert witness, political candidate 1943

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