“The time comes when each of us has to give up as illusions the expectations which, in his youth, he pinned upon his fellow-men, and when he may learn how much difficulty and pain has been added to his life by their ill-will.”

— Sigmund Freud , book Civilization and Its Discontents

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Austrian neurologist known as the founding father of psycho… 1856–1939

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