“Real life is messy, inconsistent, and it's seldom when anything ever really gets resolved. It's taken me a long time to realize that.”

“I get all my hair products at PetCo. (Jay's hair is long, curly, and quite messy)”

“Death is simple. Life is messy. Give me life, the more complicated the better.”

“I don't know if I ever really get mad in real life. It's what my shrink was saying to me all those years: You need to get mad! I think rage is so ugly. I just think there's a way to be mad and discuss it.”

“The road is messy in the way that real life is messy. It leads us out of denial and into reality, out of theory and into practice, out of caution and into action, out of statistics and into stories—in short, out of our heads and into our hearts.”

“I don't think anyone ever gets over anything in life; they merely get used to it.”

“The worst thing about this modern world is that people think you get killed on television with zero pain and zero blood. It must enter into kids' heads that it's not very messy to kill somebody, and it doesn't hurt that much. That's a real sickness to me. That's a real sick thing.”

“You can do anything when it's not real.
When it is real, nothing breaks your fall. Nothing gets between you and the ground.”

“Jan had told him many times "it was you to me who taught:
in Jersey anything's legal as long as you don't get caught"”

“Almost anything one says or has said about what society wants or should get is threatened with internal inconsistency.”