“When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice.”
Source: The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
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“The choices we make within the boundaries of the twists of fate determines who we are”
Source: Confessions of an Economic Hit Man

Happiness Becomes You: A Guide to Changing Your Life for Good (2020), p. 126

Twitter post https://twitter.com/Ocasio2018/status/1076890299773976582 (23 December 2018)
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As quoted by Holly Yan et. al. Al-Assad touts plan for resolution, says enemies of Syria 'will go to hell' http://edition.cnn.com/2013/01/06/world/meast/syria-civil-war/?hpt=hp_t1, CNN (Jan. 17, 2013)

“Caroline Waverly: Sometimes we hurt more for what might have been than for what is.”
Source: Carnal Innocence
Source: How to Stop Worrying and Start Living (1948), p. 101.