“Stop being who you were and become who you are.”

“Stop being yourself and become who u always wanted to be”

“Memory is the only thing that binds you to earlier selves; for the rest, you become an entirely different being every decade or so, sloughing off the old persona, renewing and moving on. You are not who you were, he told her, nor who you will be.”

“People tend to take pride in who they are. And that's a bad idea, because that stops you from becoming who you could be. Because, if you're proud of who you are, you won't let that go when it's necessary; you won't step away from it.”

“For what are we interrupted? For the grandest dramas and the greatest joys, … for true loves, for desperate needs … If you are a moral being, you will have done well to be a being who has broken off, one who has stopped.”

“And then their voices stopped and their souls stood still and they ceased being who they had been. Because who they were had always been determined by him.”

“Oh, you can't make yourself stop dreaming
Who you're dreaming of.
If it's who you love,
Then it's who you love.”

“Obstacles can't stop you. Problems can't stop you. Most of all others can't stop you. The only one who stops you is yourself.”

“Yes, you can--if you do everything as if it were the last thing you were doing in your life, and stop being aimless, stop letting your emotions override what your mind tells you, stop being hypocritical, self-centered, irritable. You will find rest from vain fancies if you perform every act in life as though it were your last.”

“People who were wounded by being incompatible with their family and therefore being pushed away, shamed and rejected for who they are, are desperate to belong. They are so desperate for connection that they commit to people who are incompatible to them even after they become aware of the incompatibility. It is a bit like being so desperate for water that you'll drink it even if you know it is poisoned.”