“Fear makes us run away from each other or cling to each other but does not create true intimacy.”

—  Henri Nouwen

Lifesigns: Intimacy, Fecundity, and Ecstasy in Christian Perspective (1986), p. 30

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Dutch priest and writer 1932–1996

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