“If you would be loved, be lovable”
Ut ameris, amabilis esto.
Ovid book Ars amatoria
Variant translation: To be loved, be lovable.
Book II, line 107
Compare: Si vis amari, ama. ("If you wish to be loved, love"), attributed to Hecato by Seneca the Younger in Epistulae Morales ad Lucilium, Epistle IX
Ars Amatoria (The Art of Love)
Variant: If you want to be loved, be lovable.