“Russian ladies, for the most part, cherish only Platonic love, without mingling any thought of matrimony with it; and Platonic love is exceedingly embarrassing.”

—  Mikhail Lermontov, book A Hero of Our Time

A Hero of Our Time (1840; rev. 1841)

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