“Loving someone means helping them to be more themselves, which can be different from being what you'd like them to be, although often they turn out the same.”

— Merle Shain

Some Men are More Perfect Than Others (1973)

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Canadian writer 1935–1989

Nancy Garden book Annie on My Mind

Source: Annie on My Mind

“We’re meant to protect each other, but not from everything. Not from
the truth. That’s what it means to love someone but let them be themselves.
-Jace Wayland”

Cassandra Clare The City of Lost Souls

Source: City of Lost Souls

“sarcasm and jokes were often the bottle in which clinical depressives sent out their most plangent screams for someone to care and help them.”

David Foster Wallace book Infinite Jest

Source: Infinite Jest

“I want to talk about love. Loving someone…I mean really loving someone…means you are willing to admit that the person you love is not what you first fell in love with, not the image you first had; and you must be able to like them still for being as close to that image as they are, and avoid disliking them for being so far away.”

Samuel R. Delany (1942) American author, professor and literary critic

The Star Pit (1967)

“I find the best way to love someone is not to change them, but instead, help them reveal the greatest version of themselves. – Dr. Steve Maraboli”

Ralph Smart

“You don't love hatred and evil, of course. You have to practice and see the real gull, the good in every one of them, and to help them see it in themselves. That's what I mean by love.”

Richard Bach book Jonathan Livingston Seagull

Source: Jonathan Livingston Seagull

“Maybe it was the same with people: if you studied them, you'd see new and different things. But would you like what you saw? Did it depend on who was doing the looking?”

Sharon Creech book Chasing Redbird

Source: Chasing Redbird

“We can deduce, often, from one part of physics like the law of gravitation, a principle which turns out to be much more valid than the derivation.”

Richard Feynman book The Character of Physical Law

Source: The Character of Physical Law (1965), chapter 2, “ The Relation of Mathematics to Physics http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M9ZYEb0Vf8U” referring to the law of conservation of angular momentum
Context: Now we have a problem. We can deduce, often, from one part of physics like the law of gravitation, a principle which turns out to be much more valid than the derivation. This doesn't happen in mathematics, that the theorems come out in places where they're not supposed to be!

“With Rahm, you get someone who is both a great strategic thinker and a great tactician. It's great to have someone who knows the Congress inside and out. There can often be major differences between the executive branch and the congressional branch, even when you're from the same party. It will certainly help in terms of getting things done.”

Rahm Emanuel (1959) politician, investment banker, White House Chief of Staff

Chris Van Hollen, quoted in San Francisco Chronicle http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2008/11/06/MN6C13VKH5.DTL&type=politics.
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“The Hazer would be arriving at about the same time as Ulysses and the three of them could spend a pleasant evening. It was not too often that two good friends ever visited here at once.
He stood a bit aghast at thinking of the Hazer as a friend, for more than likely the being itself was one he had never met. But that made little difference, for a Hazer, any Hazer, would turn out to be a friend.”

Clifford D. Simak book Way Station

Source: Way Station (1963), Ch. 14

“Loving someone means helping them to be more themselves, which can be different from being what you'd like them to be, although often they turn out the same.”

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