“Our children are better served by speaking not of “visitation” versus “custody,” but of “parent time.””

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 187.

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Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 187.

““Visitation” reflects the era of the absentee father; “parent time” influences the re-emergence of the involved father. “Visitation” reflects the destruction of the family; “parent time” influences the reconstruction of the family. “Parent time” influences an era that understands that as either parents loses, so lose the children.”

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