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Rollo Reece May was an American existential psychologist and author of the influential book Love and Will . He is often associated with humanistic psychology and existentialist philosophy, and alongside Viktor Frankl, was a major proponent of existential psychotherapy. The philosopher and theologian Paul Tillich was a close friend who had a significant influence on his work.As well as Love and Will, May's works include The Meaning of Anxiety and, titled in honor of Tillich's The Courage to Be, The Courage to Create . Wikipedia  

✵ 21. April 1909 – 22. October 1994
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Rollo May Quotes

“When inward life dries up, when feeling decreases and apathy increases, when one cannot affect or even genuinely touch another person, violence flares up as a daimonic necessity for contact, a mad drive forcing touch in the most direct way possible.”

Rollo May book Love and Will

Source: Love and Will (1969), Ch. 1 : Introduction : Our Schizoid World, p. 31

Life , Way , Feeling , Personality

“Care is a state in which something does matter; care is the opposite of apathy. Care is the necessary source of eros, the source of human tenderness.”

Rollo May book Love and Will

Source: Love and Will (1969), p. 289

“Vanity and narcissism — the compulsive need to be admired and praised — undermine one's courage, for one then fights on someone else's conviction rather than one's own.”

Rollo May

Source: Man’s Search for Himself (1953), p. 177

Courage , Fight

“The vision of the artist or the poet is the intermediate determinant between the subject (the person) and the objective pole (the world-waiting-to-be). It will be nonbeing until the poet's struggle brings forth an answer — meaning. The greatness of a poem or a painting is not that it portrays the thing observed or experienced, but that it portrays the artist's or the poet's vision cued off by his encounter with the reality. Hence the poem or the painting is unique, original, never to be duplicated. No matter how many times Monet returned to paint the cathedral at Rouen, each canvas was a new painting expressing a new vision.”

Rollo May

Source: The Courage to Create (1975), Ch. 4 : Creativity and the Encounter, p. 79

World , Reality , Time , Waiting

“Courage is the capacity to meet the anxiety which arises as one achieves freedom. It is the willingness to differentiate, to move from the protecting realms of parental dependence to new levels of freedom and integration.”

Rollo May

Source: Man’s Search for Himself (1953), p. 192

Courage , Parent , Freedom , Dependency

“When one read’s Kierkegaard’s profound analyses of anxiety and despair or Nietzsche’s amazingly acute insights into the dynamics of resentment and the guilt and hostility which accompany repressed emotional powers, one might pinch oneself to realize that one is reading works written in the last century and not some new contemporary psychological analysis.”

Rollo May

Source: The Discovery of Being (1983), p. 53

Hostility , Reading , Despair

“Anxiety occurs because of a threat to the values a person identifies with his existence as a self … most anxiety comes from a threat to social, emotional and moral values the person identifies with himself. And here we find that a main source of anxiety, particularly in the younger generation, is that they do not have viable values available in the culture on the basis of which they can relate to their world. The anxiety which is inescapable in an age in which values are so radically in transition is a central cause of apathy … such prolonged anxiety tends to develop into lack of feeling and the experience of depersonalization.”

Rollo May

Source: Psychology and the Human Dilemma (1967), p. 42

Age , World , Feeling , Personality

“Life comes from physical survival; but the good life comes from what we care about.”

Rollo May book Love and Will

Source: Love and Will (1969), p. 290

Life

“Imagination is the outreaching of mind … the bombardment of the conscious mind with ideas, impulses, images and every sort of psychic phenomena welling up from the preconscious. It is the capacity to "dream dreams and see visions…"”

Rollo May

Source: The Courage to Create (1975), Ch. 6 : On the Limits of Creativity, p. 120

Dreams , Imagination , Idea

“Mark Tobey fills his canvases with elliptical, calligraphic lines, beautiful whirls that seem at first glance to be completely abstract and to come from nowhere at all except his own subjective musing. But I shall never forget how struck I was, on visiting Tobey's studio one day, to see strewn around books on astronomy and photographs of the Milky Way. I knew then that Tobey experiences the movement of the stars and solar constellations as the external pole of his encounter.”

Rollo May

Source: The Courage to Create (1975), Ch. 4 : Creativity and the Encounter, p. 80

Books , Beauty , Way , Star

“Poets often have a conscious awareness that they are struggling with the daimonic, and that the issue is their working something through from the depths which push the self to a new plane.”

Rollo May book Love and Will

Source: Love and Will (1969), p. 127

“Our patients are the ones who express and live out the subconscious and unconscious tendencies in the culture. The neurotic, or person suffering from what we now call character disorder, is characterized by the fact that the usual defenses of the culture do not work for him — a generally painful situation of which he is more or less aware…”

Rollo May book Love and Will

Source: Love and Will (1969), Ch. 1 : Introduction : Our Schizoid World, p. 20

Pain , Suffering , Personality

“To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive — to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before.”

Rollo May book Love and Will

Source: Love and Will (1969), p. 100

Love , Disappointment , Joy

“We could not even see Hitler or the destructively daimonic reality he represented. Human beings just couldn't be that cruel in the our civilized twentieth century — the accounts in the papers must be wrong. Our error was that we let our convictions limit our perceptions. We had no place for the daimonic; we believed that the world must somehow fit our convictions, and the whole daimonic dimension was ruled out of our perception. Not to recognize the daimonic itself turns out to be daimonic, it makes us accomplices on the side of the destructive possession.
The denial of the daimonic is, in effect, a self-castration in love and a self-nullification in will. And the denial leads to the perverted forms of aggression we have seen in our day in which the repressed comes back to haunt us.”

Rollo May book Love and Will

Source: Love and Will (1969), p. 131

Love , World , Error , Reality

“True religion, namely a fundamental affirmation of the meaning of life, is something without which no human being can be healthy in personality.. . . What happens to mental health when this meaning which religion gives is absent? In other words, what is the effect of atheism on personality?. . . I have been startled by the fact that practically every genuine atheist with whom I have dealt has exhibited unmistakable neurotic tendencies.”

Rollo May

The Ultimate Source of Meaning, Awake! magazine, october 22, 1980.
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Life , Health , Religion , Personality

“Creativity is the result of a struggle between vitality and form. As anyone who has tried to write a sonnet or scan poetry, is aware, the forms ideally do not take away from the creativity but may add to it.”

Rollo May book Love and Will

Source: Love and Will (1969), Ch. 13 : Communion of Consciousness, p. 320

“Stoicism, in our day, is not strength to overcome wishes, but to hide them.…Tendencies have become endemic in our culture for our denial of wishes to be rationalized and accepted with the belief that this denial of the wish will result in its being fulfilled.”

Rollo May book Love and Will

Source: Love and Will (1969), Ch. 10 : Intentionality in Therapy, p. 265

“[D]epression… can be usefully seen, from one point of view, as the inability to see or construct a future.”

Rollo May book Love and Will

Source: Love and Will (1969), Ch. 9 : Intentionality, p. 243

Future

“Violence is the daimonic gone awry. It is "demon possession" in its starkest form. Our age is one of transition, in which the normal channels for utilizing the daimonic are denied; and such ages tend to be times when the daimonic is expressed in its most destructive form.”

Rollo May book Love and Will

Source: Love and Will (1969), Ch. 5, p. 130

Age , Time

“The daimonic is any natural function which has the power to take over the whole person. Sex and eros, anger and rage, and the craving for power are examples. The daimonic can be either creative or destructive and is normally both.”

Rollo May book Love and Will

Source: Love and Will (1969), Ch. 5 : Love and the Daimonic, p. 123

Personality , Rage , Anger , Nature